We are so filled with fear of rejection and pretensions that we hardly understand whether we are deceiving ourselves or trusting ourselves. Most of the time we play roles, avoiding contact with our feelings. Unconscious (a set of mental processes and states caused by the phenomenon of reality, the influence of which subjects are not aware of) fear of rejection prevents us from building a relationship with the partner we like. Why are we afraid? And how does suppression affect our health? own feelings? In this article we will try to answer these questions; for the basis we will take the American psychiatrist and psychotherapist, creator bioenergy analysis(from the Greek bio - “life” + energeia - “activity” and analysis - “dismemberment”, a type of psychotherapy) A. Lowen.
In this article, it is advisable to rely on the definition of the emotion of fear as a negative emotional state that appears when the subject receives information about a possible threat to his well-being in life, about a real or imaginary danger. In contrast to the emotion of suffering, caused by direct blocking of the most important needs, a person, experiencing the emotion of fear, has only a probabilistic forecast of possible trouble and acts on the basis of this (often an insufficiently reliable or exaggerated forecast). For a person as a social being, fear often becomes an obstacle to achieving his goal (K. Izard).
Our feelings manifest themselves in different ways, often we are not even aware of them and do not know how to express them correctly. In many cases, we do not manifest them at all, but press them and turn them inward, and this is the main cause of psychosomatic disorders ( psychological illnesses caused by psychological factors), the heart, stomach and back suffer, in some cases the appearance of excess weight. Such destructive non-manifestation, blocking of one’s own feelings ( the main type of emotions characteristic of humans, they are innate) And emotions (direct, temporary experience of some feeling) comes from childhood, hiding in adulthood in an impregnable bunker.
In childhood, an attitude towards his own feelings is formed, the child, until a certain time, when socialization has not yet left its mark, sincerely shows his emotions, he freely and easily shares with everyone, then gradually, under the influence of the external environment, he learns to restrain his feelings, and sometimes begins to hide emotions even from himself. Let's look at the occurrence of a violation, blocking one's feelings. According to A. Lowen, one of the reasons is the loss of love of one of the child’s parents, which leaves an imprint for life.
For example: a mother, due to a lack of energy and time, is busy with some kind of business or the appearance of a second child, does not devote time to the first, and because of this he experiences a longing for his mother’s attention, such unavailability leads to the first experience of a “broken heart” in his life " Arises sadness (a state of mental bitterness that is caused by separation, a feeling of loneliness, failure to achieve a goal, disappointment, unfulfilled hope. The main reason is the loss of something significant for a person) and is suppressed, but this remains in the body and is remembered in it.
Such melancholy gives rise to the development of the hard thoracic shell of the rib cage, which protects the heart. The child does not understand that his mother has other things to do, he wants to get his need, and then he, subsequently without losing hope in every possible way, wants to receive this love and decides to be good, studies well, constantly achieves success, while experiencing guilt ( a combination of feelings of fear, auto-aggression and protection from this internal aggression which a person imposes on himself as a result of thoughts or actions that violate his internal prohibition. Self-awareness when feeling guilty - “I am bad”, often accompanied by such somatic sensations as muscle tension in various parts of the body, involuntary facial expressions, breathing problems, increased heart rate, changes in blood pressure, etc. It comes from the area of the unconscious).
A. Lowen in his works writes about the origin of a child’s feeling of guilt: “....the feeling of guilt is born from the assumption that we are unworthy of love until we earn it with good deeds. The fact that we feel anger towards those who have hurt us and hate those who betrayed our love does not make us bad people. Such reactions are biologically natural, so they should be treated as morally acceptable. However, children who are dependent on parents and other adults can be easily convinced that things are really different. A child who feels that he is not loved thinks that some kind of mistake has occurred, since his mind cannot accommodate the idea that the mother and father who gave him life might not love him. If he begins to doubt them, it is not difficult for parents to convince him that it is “bad” for him to feel anger or hatred towards them. If "good behavior" guarantees love, the child will do everything in his power to be "good" along with suppressing "bad" feelings. Thus, the feeling of guilt programs his behavior for the rest of his life, prohibiting him negative feelings in relation to the body, who needs to be loved. This causes a condition of chronic muscle tension, especially in the upper back. Tension in the muscular system depends on our will, controlled by the ego (according to Freud, it carries out executive functions, being an intermediary between external and inner world), which often acts contrary to the desires of the heart. Fearing rejection, we pull away the hand that wanted to touch and hug someone; lips that would like to kiss or suck (as happens with babies); or we avert the eyes that we would like to look at.....”
But at the same time, wanting love and recognition, we do everything to attract attention to ourselves, “...hiding behind the facade of narcissism (low self-esteem; compensatory arrogance; anxiety; fear of failure; fear of success; need to always be right; difficulty making decisions; disconnection from one's own feelings; need for constant admiration; fear of intimacy), the goal of which, on the one hand, is to receive approval and admiration, and on the other, to compensate and deny internal feelings of inferiority, despair and sadness. A good example of this personality is a man who develops muscles in order to give the impression of strength, masculinity and power. In most cases, behind the macho façade, there is a lost child. The split between appearance bodybuilder and inner feeling loneliness splits the internal integration of his personality.
In a culture like ours, focused mainly on such values ego(Latin ego - “I”), like power and success, there is a share of narcissism in the personality structure of most people. The main question here is to what extent a person remains in touch with his deep feelings and with his body.....”.
Thus, by embellishing our appearance, putting on a mask of confidence and charm, while the heart is in a bunker, we do not even realize that this state of affairs has very serious consequences for health, since the heart loses its vitality. We all want love, but we avoid it because we are afraid of rejection, unconscious fear closes the way to the heart. Childhood trauma has left a deep mark that makes it a barrier to lips that would like to kiss. And eyes that we would like to look at.
In conclusion, we can draw conclusions: we live and accept false ego values, and are not aware of it. Perhaps there are a lot of reasons for destructive non-manifestation and blocking of one’s feelings and emotions, and they are all individual, related to personal attitudes, and it is better to work on this in a specialist’s office. First of all, we need to realize that the head is not used to make money, the genitals are not for entertainment, the heart is not isolated from the head and satisfying the flesh, has not lost touch with the world, but everything is interconnected and functions together. Having realized this, we will be able to control the appearance of the emotion of fear in our soul, and our life will become happier from the fact that we accept the feeling of love and ourselves as we are. Opening the bunker where you hid your heart to freedom and love.
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Emotional blocks are hidden barriers that can consist of a wide variety of emotions. These are emotions that you suppress and cannot express, which causes happiness to disappear from your life. What are the symptoms of emotional blockage?
You constantly feel tired and depressed
Hiding emotions deep in the subconscious requires an incredible amount of energy. You may not even be aware that you're doing it, but your body definitely is. If you can't find a reason why you feel tired all the time, thinking about when you first started feeling tired or depressed may help you identify your emotional block.
You pretend the problem doesn't matter (but it does)
This is a huge clue your brain is sending you that is literally screaming at you that you have an emotional blockage. If you constantly ignore an issue that worries you and pretend it doesn't matter, these are clear signs of emotional blockage. Take a closer look at the problem you're talking about we're talking about, and try to discover an emotional connection.
You are always trying to please others
It's human nature to want to help other people, but when it's negatively impacting your health, you need to ask yourself why you continue to do so. The thing is, if you say yes to absolutely everything, it could also be an indicator of emotional blockage. If you find yourself always agreeing to every request, you need to take a step back and stop promising everyone your services. Especially if this leads to you starting to let down the people to whom you promised something.
You have unrealistically high expectations
A high moral code is good, but if the rules of that code are unrealistic for your friends or family, you might want to ask yourself why you set the bar so high. Are you trying to purposefully distance yourself from loved ones? Perhaps your parents always set the bar incredibly high for you and you tried to please them?
You can't stop thinking about past relationships
Experiencing separation and the breakdown of relationships, moving on - these are all integral parts of life. But if you are fixated on your ex-partner, constantly monitor him in in social networks, you always need to know what he's going to do and you just can't stop thinking about him, then you have a serious problem. There's a good chance that your relationship ended abruptly and without proper explanation, so you need to sort things out with your partner.
You constantly procrastinate
Do you have several unfinished projects? Do you need to set strict deadlines before you can finish any of them? For you, is tomorrow the best moment to do something? Take a look at the things that make you procrastinate and see if there is a pattern. Do you keep putting off housework, gardening, and work projects? Find common denominator and try to develop a strategy that will allow you to be more motivated.
You eat and drink more
To ignore emotional blockages, many people try to achieve results in this endeavor by eating and drinking more. It can also lead to the lethargy mentioned above and also contribute to the development of depression. By using food or drink to replace emotions, you are trying to push those emotions away as far as possible and suppress them even more. Another sign that you are trying to overcome an emotional blockage is that you start to exercise more.
Why is it important to release blocked emotions?
Suppressing emotions over a long period of time can lead to serious problems not only with mental, but also with physical health. Your body suffers when you suppress emotions, and long-term suppression can lead to diseases such as chronic fatigue, arthritis, and even cancer. It also has a negative impact on your mental state, as your life cannot move forward while you are stuck in the past, constantly reliving, at least on a subconscious level, your old traumas.
What is Mnushi?
Mnushi - (Meditative Neurorelaxation Unique Somatic Healing Interaction) - the author's name for the practice of s-tactile neurorelaxation in clothes, as well as group classes according to this method.
Russia, Germany, Belgium, Israel, England, France, Poland, Ukraine, Belarus, Canada, Scotland, USA, Egypt, Thailand, UAE, Japan - this is an incomplete list of countries that already have their own specialists practicing Mnushi.
Mnushi is tactile communication from a special state and attunement, which necessarily involves psycho-emotional feedback.
Sometimes it looks like a passive physical exercise warm-up: stretch your shoulders, knead your palm, your back - the word “knead”, “knead” formed the basis of this word, which has become the school’s brand.
Mnushi are able to return a person to a harmonious resource state and mood in minutes.
The word Mnushi has its own mascot (Mnusha snail), and has gained such popularity that it is often used as an adjective.
For example: “mushnoe” means especially kind, attentive, sensitive, delicate: people, hands, smiles, atmosphere.
Mnushi is not so much the touches themselves, but rather a special approach to a session that can work wonders with your mind and body in a very short time.
It can be described as deep rest through the presence and help of a partner nearby - both the conductor and the recipient, which in itself is wonderful.
Mnushi involve that area of human relationships that is little manifested in physical education, gymnastics, yoga: mutual assistance, mutual assistance, involvement of another person in the life-giving healing process.
What is neurorelaxation?
Neurorelaxation is a soft bodily practice of psycho-emotional correction, using social (supporting, soothing, stroking) touches from a state of attention and acceptance, and slow strokes that stimulate c-tactile (social) receptors. nervous system harmonizing emotionality and physicality.
Neurorelaxation has a calming effect on the most basic systems of the brain (hormonal-limbic and reptilian), and returns a person to identification with his body, creates new neural connections.
Neurorelaxation can be tactile, energetic, oil, and with the help of certain objects.
In addition, it is not only pleasant and incomparable presence in the moment, deep rest to reboot consciousness, but also a reminder of the language of human communication - through touch.
You can relieve fatigue, stress, irritation, and depression in literally minutes, but that’s not all. Neurorelaxation can bring back beauty, health, harmony, closeness to your family, and... yourself.
We would like neurorelaxation practices to become as widespread and enjoyable daily leisure
in families, like having dinner together or talking about how the day went. So that husband and wife, parents and children, friends do not shy away from tactile contact and more often expressed care and love each other with healing attention and skillful techniques of neurorelaxation.
Our body is incredibly smart: give it rest, and it will repair itself from any ailment. Our Body itself recognizes what is harmful to us and what is beneficial. Having rested from the “noise of the head”, we gain the ability to think clearly and clearly, we begin to look at the bustle of life differently.
It's very easy to learn!
The sincere desire of our school is to give you useful skills in the shortest possible time, so that you can start practicing as quickly as possible and in the process comprehend the details and subtleties of the skill necessary for everyone who has a body
Why wearing gloves?
For better glide on clothing or fabric. All neurorelaxation practices (except oil work) are carried out through clothing. But on bare areas of skin (arms, neck), it is better to avoid direct touching your partner. This way the vacationer is better focused on his own feelings.
How to become a relaxologist?
We are taught to “love your neighbor”, “turn the other cheek”, without completely understanding or taking into account the energy dynamics involved in this.
If you divide the word "emotion" into two parts - "e" and "motion", you will see that it was originally formed from Latin roots meaning outward movement.
This definition fits well with the Reichian understanding of human emotions. At its core, emotion is nothing more than the movement of plasma, a wave of energy passing through the liquid contents of the body in an effort to express and release.
Such a detached point of view has no meaning for us of great importance, when we are mourning a lost lover or angry at some offensive remark. But it certainly helps the Reichian therapist understand the mechanics of restoring healthy pulsation in the client's body to open the door to happiness, greater vitality and well-being.
Reich himself traced the emergence of emotions to their most primitive and basic form, choosing as an example single cell organism, amoeba. Using a microscope, he saw that the plasma inside the amoeba cell was stretched towards the source of pleasure and retracted away from the source of pain.
This is a two-way movement, or, as Reich liked to call it, “the two-way emotion of protoplasm.”
The desire for pleasure causes movement from the cell nucleus to the periphery, while the desire to avoid pain causes movement in the opposite direction - compression from the periphery to the nucleus. Reich believed that this basic bidirectional pulsation is inherent in all living organisms and is the fundamental basis of human expression: we all want to feel pleasure; we all want to avoid pain. Reich also pointed out that movement, which is a means of expression, is an integral property of living organisms, distinguishing them from the rest of nature. To be alive means to move; to move means to express.
This all seems obvious, but it leads to a significant point: whether we like it or not, we are all emotional beings.
Feelings are part of the package called “life,” and the emotional expression of these feelings is a natural and necessary movement of our energy.
If we strangle them, suppress them, then we suppress the life force itself.
From this perspective, it is not difficult to observe the basic conflict that has arisen between human nature and our so-called socially acceptable behavior. In "advanced" societies than less people
shows his emotions, the more civilized he is considered. This reminds me of the famous British "pursed upper lip"
when not showing emotions in moments of extreme stress was considered the pinnacle of good manners and good manners. I don't remember the title of the book, but I do remember that there was a quote from the diary of a British lady who found herself besieged in Lucknow during the Indian Mutiny in 1857. "This morning Major So-and-So was beheaded cannonball
while shaving." This was her entire diary: a pedantic listing of the horrors of the siege with harsh suppression of emotions.
We Americans aren't that good at hiding our emotions, but the general approach remains the same. For example, I remember how my sisters and I joked about how we all belonged to the Good family. And that our real last name is not Dillon, but Good, because whenever, when greeting each other, we asked each other: “How are you?”, the answer was always: “Good!” It's the American way: look good, keep smiling and be confident that everything is great.
And if some unwanted negative emotions begin to creep behind this facade with the inscription: “I’m fine,” then there is always the latest derivative of Prozac or Valium to neutralize them. Of course, these little smart pills, along with your suffering, will destroy your ability to be happy, but this is the price that most people are willing to pay for everything to still be nice and in order. This position is characteristic not only of Americans and Europeans. All highly organized cultures, including Japan, China, Egypt and India, have always required strict formalities in social interaction
Reich's message to the world is that the process of civilization has gone too far in the direction of controlling emotions. You have to pay too high a price for this - producing neurotic people who are unable to truly enjoy life.
This is especially true today. Thanks to the development of science, man has succeeded in creating a comfortable life. The world is filled with all sorts of technological wonders that make work easier and provide the most different shapes leisure But the parallel destruction of life force has almost deprived us of the ability to enjoy our own achievements.
We must restore our emotions to regain our love for life.
Following this goal, Charles Kelly took the basic Reichian pleasure-anxiety pulse as a basis and developed a more complex model for working with clients.
He discovered that it was more accurate and useful to think of emotions in terms of not one, but three “pairs of feelings.”
These are the three “pairs of feelings”:
anger - love;
fear - trust;
pain is pleasure.
Each of three negative emotions - anger, fear and pain - are associated with various aspects of the pulsation. Anger is associated with an outward movement, from the core to the periphery. Fear is associated with movement inward, from the periphery to the core. Pain is associated with a convulsive quality of energetic discharge, rapid contraction and subsequent relaxation of muscles. We feel it when we laugh, cry, experience an orgasm.
Each of negative emotions, being blocked, is retained in the body in a characteristic way with the help of muscle tension. This allows an experienced therapist to “read” the client’s body and identify the predominant blocked emotion. To a certain extent, we can divide people into those who hold anger, those who hold fear, and those who hold pain.
This helps you decide where to begin the process of releasing trapped emotions and restoring a healthy pulse. Of course, this does not mean that only people who hold anger are angry. We all have a full range of emotions within us. This classification only indicates what kind of habit has formed in a person over many years and what type of emotions is mainly blocked.
Three positive emotions also associated with pulsation. Love flows outward to other people from the core to the periphery. Trust is a form of receptivity that allows the outside world to penetrate within. Pleasure is a state of well-being in which the entire organism is involved.
As we will see later, the fact that both negative and positive emotions are associated with pulsation has important implications because the misunderstanding that exists regarding how to deal with negative emotions also directly affects our ability to feel positive feelings.
Anger - Love
Anger is energy flowing outward. Its release can be easily seen by watching how quarrels develop, especially between men. For example, two guys in a bar are talking about football. One says that the San Francisco 49ers are the best team in the world, and the other, with a snort of disgust, replies: “The Niners haven't been worth a damn lately.” The first one immediately feels insulted and goes into a rage. and hits the second one in the jaw. A classic drunken fight begins.
Anger is a violent, explosive and aggressive expression of energy - a sudden release from the core to the periphery - and therefore in a fight the fist is essentially nothing more than an extension of the energy impulse moving outward.
The same is true for weapons. When two cowboys get into a quarrel and “grab guns” in an old Western, the blazing revolvers, as well as the bullets, are an extension of the angry energy. By the way, it is in the United States that a large number of people die from gunshot wounds. This happens due to the availability and accessibility of weapons that lengthen and intensify the energy impulse of anger.
However, as civilized people, we are taught from childhood not to express anger and, generally speaking, we do everything in our power to restrain it. Such effort, motivated by the best intentions, causes the muscles to tense and harden.
The shell of anger is located on the periphery of the body because the energy that was stopped moved outward. A person holding back anger usually has strong hands and arms with stiff muscles, his mouth and jaw are almost always tense, and his barrel chest juts out as if he is challenging the world. Such people give the feeling that they can barely contain their emotions; If you accidentally push them, or step on their feet, or say something wrong, they will immediately explode.
As I just mentioned, social education teaches us to block anger - except in special situations such as war. But the difficulty with this approach is that it also prevents love.
Love is a soft, gentle, compassionate expression of our energy moving outward. Despite their strong differences, love and anger move along the same highway in the same direction - from the core to the periphery. If one aspect of an outward expression is blocked, the other aspect is likely to be blocked as well. And love is a much softer, more subtle feeling. It will not be able to penetrate the hard layer of chronic tension formed by the habit of blocking anger.
Even if deep in your core you strive to express love, strive to reach others in your expansive movement, you will not succeed. There is a traffic jam on the highway, traffic is blocked, nothing can move.
This is a classic dilemma created by public morality. We are asked not to be angry, but instead to be loving and compassionate. We are taught to “love your neighbor”, “turn the other cheek”, without completely understanding or taking into account the energy dynamics involved in this.
It is simply impossible to suppress anger and be loving at the same time. Yes, you can reduce love to an idea, to an intellectual concept, and pretend that you love others, that you love humanity, that you care about the poor and the downtrodden. But real, warm, sincere love is a living energy that needs movement and expression, and if the path for expression is blocked by the armored body, then it can never reach another person.
For love to flow, anger must be expressed and released. Due to illiterate upbringing, people do not know what to do with anger, while the solution is very simple: you just need to throw out the anger, throw it out of yourself - this is the only thing that will help. It is an outward wave of energy that needs to be expressed and discharged. Of course, this does not mean that we should start yelling at each other, getting into fights and carrying revolvers.
Once anger is discharged and the inner highway is freed, the likelihood that love will begin to flow and find expression increases significantly.
This explains the habit that some couples who live together for a long time develop: to quarrel and then make love - “fucking and fighting”, as it is sometimes called. Sami Without knowing it, these couples are trying to get rid of the blocked energy and feel the love present behind it. In the past, women had a hard time expressing their anger directly. IN Victorian era
For example, tight corsets and confining clothing reflected a corresponding state of severe emotional restriction.
The underlying belief was that no matter how justified a woman’s anger may be, the man will always be stronger and will not allow it to be expressed, forcing the woman to swallow her rage. Most often, women's anger was released in a hysterical fit, which is a form of helpless rage. It was hysteria that Freudians most often encountered when they began studying the female psyche at the beginning of the twentieth century. Thanks to women's liberation and the right to express their emotions directly, hysteria is less common these days.
Another traditional way for women to deal with anger is to grumble.
It succeeds in turning men henpecked, but is really a distorted form of anger. Like hysteria, grumbling developed from the inability to directly express emotions.
Fear - Trust Fear makes a person shrink. It's a contraction, a drawing in of energy, because in reality your basic survival instinct is saying, "Run away!" This is the desire to get out of a situation that feels dangerous. To support the action, adrenaline is released in the body, and the animal inside you wants to run away, to escape.
In the process of education, things are completely different. Children find themselves in frightening family situations, but cannot escape from them. They are helpless and dependent on the very people - most often mom and dad - who are the cause of the fear. Children cannot escape, and instead of running away, they cower in fear.
At its core, this compression represents a retreat of energy towards the core, a movement inward, an attempt to escape from the periphery, where there is danger. This contraction can be caused by a thousand and one reasons, but generally its occurrence reflects an unsafe home environment.
The child in it must remain vigilant to protect himself. Unpredictability is a key ingredient in the fear formula. It's not that mom or dad are angry all the time, but that the tendency of one or both parents to have unexpected outbursts creates an atmosphere constant anxiety
, constant expectation: “When will this happen? " This atmosphere reigns in families where the alcoholic father, when drunk, is prone to physical violence. And it is unsafe if the mother has a nervous character, and she copes with stress only up to a certain point, and then suddenly “breaks down” and attacks the child with beatings. Also, from my experience working with many clients, I know that the type of people who hold fear sometimes arises right in the womb, since it is certainly absolutely impossible to escape from here. For example, if a mother does not want the pregnancy, her unspoken desire to have an abortion creates an atmosphere of fear that affects the fetus. Likewise, if a mother is constantly stressed, anxious or afraid during pregnancy, these feelings are passed on to the unborn child. He has frightening questions: “Is it safe here?”, “Do I have the right to be here?”
Such a response does not arise at the level of thinking - the fetus does not know language - but is experienced by the body at a primitive, instinctive level, causing a desire to shrink energetically.
Retention of fear can also develop soon after birth, during the first year and a half of life, during the so-called “oral stage,” when the baby is in the most helpless state and depends on maternal care around the clock. Afraid - an unpleasant experience. It is a feeling of contraction, from which the logical conclusion follows that if you contract too much, you will disappear completely and die.
As a result, the fear-holding shell of a person is located deep inside the body, around the core.
Two trends emerge here. The first is the outflow of energy from the periphery, where the danger is located. The second is the protection of the core itself from this onset of contracting energy.
In the case of anger, as we have seen, the shell is located on the periphery to prevent an outward blow. In the case of fear, a kind of freezing occurs deep inside so that the energy rushing inward from the periphery does not completely flood the core.
Outwardly, people who block fear appear thin and fragile, as their energy is held in the center. They usually have weak arm muscles; and legs, the chest may appear sunken and compressed. Often energy is also diverted from the eyes, as a result of which people who block fear can be nearsighted. It is clear that such a person has difficulty trusting other people or the world around him, since trust requires openness and receptivity.
Trust is the willingness to allow energy from the outside to penetrate inside you.
Like fear, trust moves with an inward pulsating phase, from the periphery to the core. It follows that if a person is enclosed in a shell that protects from fear, then this blocking will also prevent the flow of soft trust. One of the first steps in working with fear is to help the client recognize and accept it, and this means going to the core where the fear resides. This is a more delicate task than dealing with anger because the person holding the fear needs to feel safe.
It is necessary that he already has some trust - this will allow the energy to move even deeper inside. The release of fear is not as obvious as the release of anger.
It is usually accompanied by loud, high-pitched sounds, and as the inner shell begins to break down and the tension goes away, the ability to trust is gradually restored. On psychological level
Trust means that you can relax in the company of another person without being obsessed with the usual chronic suspicions, such as: “This person seems friendly, but that’s only because he needs something from me...”
But basically, trust is an attitude that says, “The world is not after me. I can move through life openly and relaxed, allowing various events influence me, affect me, influence me."
This is one of the most important results of Reichian practice: it helps clients regain the ability to open and close in the right way. Defenses can be erected when there is a reason for fear. And when there is an opportunity to trust, they can be removed.
Pain - Pleasure
When Small child really cries or laughs, his whole body goes into a state healthy and natural pulsation. But if these feelings are suppressed and blocked, the pulsation is reduced so that movement both inward and outward is minimized in an effort to drown out unwanted or unacceptable feelings. For a person holding back pain, all efforts are aimed at not feeling, not recognizing what wants to be expressed. This is a way of restraining or stopping all pulsation.
This is what happens when a child is offended. For example, when he is teased or pushed away by other children, or when he is kicked out for some offense in his own family and forced to stand in the corner while all the attention and love of his parents is directed to other children.
I remember that as a child I myself was very angry with my younger sister, who was born two years after me, because all the attention that before her appearance was focused exclusively on me suddenly went to her. I hated my sister and often behaved really badly towards her, and so my parents, trying to protect her, kicked me out. I found myself left alone with my rage and tears that could not be expressed, and
gradually, gradually, I learned to fall into a kind of numbness so as not to feel them.
Both anger and fear have a clear direction: anger is directed outward and fear is directed inward. When pain is blocked, due to the desire to feel less, both pulsation cycles are reduced, and gradually the entire body becomes insensitive. As we have seen, people who hold anger carry a large charge of energy in the periphery, while people who hold fear keep this charge in the core.
As a result, these people may be tireless workers with incredible stamina - they can spin laps in the pool long after everyone else has given up - but all this activity does not create a feeling of aliveness and vitality. On the contrary, they feel energetic stagnation. They tend to be overweight because the accumulation of fat in areas of tension helps to numb the feelings.
For people blocking pain, the first step to healing is to increase the energy pulsation. The easiest way to achieve this is by deepening your breathing.
Such a technique will inevitably bring a person into contact with painful feelings. If he can acknowledge and accept them, then deep crying and convulsive sobs will most likely begin, the tension will be released and the body will gradually begin to become more alive. Having experienced the pain again and restored the normal pulsation in the body, people who held back the pain discover in themselves enormous possibilities for pleasure, sensuality and joy. Very often, the constant numbing quality of blocked pain prevents a person from feeling the intense pleasure of orgasm. The release of pain opens the capacity for orgasmic pleasure.
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Blocking emotions and money energy My sensitivity dropped greatly after Saturday's events, and this was very strange for me. I tried to feel and get an answer from the Universe about what we should do, but there was no positive emotions
, nor negative.
I received my answer within a day in a coaching session with one girl.
She said: “I don't feel anything. I can't feel pain, I can't feel joy. I can’t feel anything.” And then I realized: the same thing happened to me. I knew that this girl had had very strong turmoil in her life, and had recently separated from her husband. They had not had a relationship for a long time, but only now she finally broke up with him.
Have you ever noticed people with “stony” faces? They are neither sad nor happy. They don't care. You look at such a face and see a robot, a person who is incapable of feeling. This is how our brain protects us. It blocks emotions and feelings. The only thing is that if it blocks the feeling of pain, it also blocks the feeling of joy, because these are two sides of the same coin. Negative-positive, night-day, ebb and flow... Without one there would be no other.
When a person is physically injured and experiences very severe physical pain, they may lose consciousness. This is a protective reaction of the body.
The same thing happens with emotions. When severe emotional pain occurs, the brain blocks the ability to feel.
And this is what has happened to many people. They stopped feeling. This is the worst thing that can happen, because it is feelings that move us. Thanks to feelings we live. There will be no feelings - there will be no meaning in life. After all, feelings are our most important motivation. Feelings are ours driving force. And if they don’t exist, what will motivate us?
Why change jobs?
Why earn more?
Why start a family?
Why love?
Why do anything at all?
People cannot change their lives because they no longer want to. And this happened to them because they once wanted a lot, but received either too little or nothing at all. This created pain, and our brain decided to protect us from pain and closed the ability to feel.
I stopped being afraid of pain and negative feelings and emotions after I learned to work and transform negative feelings into positive ones. But there was a time when I was afraid of negative emotions, because, according to the law of attraction, I was afraid of attracting even more negativity into my life. And so I suppressed all negative emotions and locked them inside myself so as not to let them out. But it turned out even worse. Instead of releasing negative emotions, I held them in and thus destroyed myself.
Do you know that every negative emotion that is not released from yourself and that remains in you destroys you from the inside?
Why are men more susceptible to depression than women? Why do men smoke and drink alcohol more? Why do men have more cardiovascular diseases?
They hold back their emotions.
They were taught as children that crying is unmanly. Expressing your weakness is not for men. A man must be strong.
Why do women moan and scream during sex, but men don’t make a single sound?
The reason is the same: men are much more closed off to themselves than women.
A man holds back and buries negative emotions within himself. Sooner or later these negative emotions find a way out. This manifests itself through physical illness, through drinking, depression.
What do women do when some unpleasant event occurs to them?
They are crying. They immediately call their friend and tell everything. They “pour out” all the negativity!
What do men do when some unpleasant event occurs to them?
They are closing.
But everything in the world is energy. Energy is neither created nor destroyed. It only moves from one state to another. In other words, it is transformed. If you hold it back, you are blocking the flow of new creative energy to you. It's like you're squeezing an energy channel.
And I’ll tell you even more: when you squeeze your energy channel, you also squeeze your money channel. Money is energy. No energy - no money.
I realized that instead of closing myself off from pain, it needs to be transformed and directed towards my desires. Many books that are world masterpieces were written during very strong shocks that happened to their authors when they felt pain.
Strong joy, like strong pain, is a powerful energy. And the question is what will you do with this energy: will you go into depression and complain about how bad life is, or will you pull yourself together and go to fulfill your desires.
I have already talked about my most difficult period in my life, and thanks to the right attitude and work, it was then that I laid the foundation for my future success.
Now let's talk about how to transform negative energy into positive energy.
How to transform negative energy into positive?
The first thing you need to do is understand where you want to direct your energy. What do you want to create? What do you want to receive? What do you want to achieve in life?
Write down a few of your wishes on a piece of paper. Before transforming energy, you need to clearly understand where you will redirect the energy. You simply switch one energy flow to another.
You need privacy because what I ask you to do, you cannot do when someone is around.
Now turn on your favorite positive and energetic music. I know that in a bad state You will want to turn on sad and suffering music. But don't do this. Music will help you redirect the flow. Now start jumping as high as you can. Set your body in motion and start screaming your desires with all your might.
For example:
I find a new wonderful job that brings me an income of XXXXX rubles.
I'm confident. I know that I will cope with any difficulties and become stronger.
I am a genius and I always apply my wisdom in everything.
I always achieve my goals!
Do this for 5 minutes.
I know this will be very difficult for you to do. You won't want to do this at all. You will find various kinds of excuses why not to do this. But please understand one thing: you can radically change and switch your thinking only through active body movements. Being in a negative state, thinking negatively, even if you start thinking positively, changes will not happen because your body is still moving by inertia in a state of negativity. The first thing you need to do is change the state of your body, and your thoughts will follow.
Someone will ask: “But I will put negative energy into my desires. This may, on the contrary, alienate them from me.” Understand that for the Universe there is no positive and negative energy. It is we, people, who give color to everything: this is bad, and this is good, this is negative, and this is positive. For the Universe there is only energy. Where there is energy, there is creation.
Your task is to direct as much energy as possible towards your dreams. And they will come true.
Through screaming and movements, you release the negativity that is lodged in you. Moreover, you redirect it to the positive.
From now on, you should not be afraid of negativity and negative emotions, because you know how to transform them.
The most important:
Know clearly where you want to redirect your energy.
Get your body moving!
Turn on music to increase energy.
Start jumping and screaming (or screaming to yourself) your desires.
What to do when you just don't feel like doing anything?
There's just no energy. I want to sleep and do nothing.
If this has been happening for a long time, it is obvious that you are doing something that does not bring you joy. You're out of place.
At the “Search for Destination” training, I help people understand where to go.
But here’s what I can advise you right now to raise your energy.
Just turn on your favorite music (preferably positive and energetic).
And start jumping. The higher you jump, the more energy will come to you. Don't think, just try right now.
One simple law.
To gain energy, get your body in motion. The more movement, the more energy.
To switch energy while moving, think, speak and shout out your desires.
And then, to keep yourself in a positive and energetic state, get involved in work and start making your dreams come true.
People often tell me, but I don’t know what to do...
Do something! It doesn't matter what to do, the important thing is to just do it! It is much easier to move from wrong actions to right ones. It is almost impossible to immediately move from inaction to correct action.
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