How do people end up together? This is not an idle question. Often, it is the fact that two people become a couple that largely determines the future fate of each of them.

What brings two people together?

1. Love. This is an ideal situation. Thanks to heaven from everyone to whom it was given from there. Of course, if by love we mean complete acceptance of a partner, and not an obsessive desire to constantly remake him to suit himself, because “I love you!”

2. The desire to start a family. In most cases, it is women who take the initiative. Moreover, it has been noted that the more wealthy a man is, the more inclined he is to seek a permanent relationship. Relatively speaking, he already has a palace. Now we need to find the owner there. But for men who have yet to earn money for a nest where his beloved will create comfort, it is more difficult.

Despite the generally accepted opinion about the polygamy of men, modern women change partners no less often than representatives of the stronger half of humanity. But the reasons are different. Women are looking for permanent and fruitful relationships. And, seeing that, as they say, “there will be no business,” they leave the game in order to start a new one at the first opportunity. And men are really looking for new partners because they are inclined to win trophies. Another thing is that often, in the end, they themselves turn out to be the trophy.

3. Circumstances. People rarely start long-term romances after meeting on the street. As a rule, lyrical relationships arise in groups, educational or work. And now also in social networks, that is, in places where people, by force of circumstances, spend a lot of time nearby. Here there is an opportunity not to rush headlong into the unknown, but to evaluate and determine your own readiness to be together.

4. Marriage of convenience. Marrying foreigners on the Internet is a typical example of this. It’s interesting that arranged marriages are quite stable, unless those getting married miscalculated the starting plans. In our rational times, such marriages no longer cause the same social condemnation. It’s not for nothing that one of the main slogans of the day is: “nothing personal – just business.”

5. Memories of a former life. There is a well-known myth about the ancestors of people - androgynes, which Plato outlined in his dialogue. According to him, people, joining in pairs, are looking for their soul mate, with whom they were once one.

6. The two are brought together by their unborn child. This version was once put forward by the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer. In his opinion, when a decision arises “above” to send another soul to earth, it receives the right to choose its parents to conceive its human component. This is why life sometimes brings together absolutely different people who, having given birth to a child, do not understand at all how they ended up in a couple.

7. Cupid games. The fact that people fall in love and become a couple is the result of the fun of mischievous cupids - they, while playing, shoot arrows wherever they want, and then people deal with it all their lives...

However, becoming a couple and even falling in love is only the first step. There is a lot of mysticism and little logic in it. And the second step is rational to be together for a long time. This is where the real passions usually begin...

Do you think there are random encounters in our lives? No, no, and no again! There are many reasons why the universe brings us together with different people, and to learn more about them, read this article!

Over the course of his life, any person meets a great many new people. Some of them remain with us for short term, someone goes part of the way, and very few walk our life’s path with us to the very end.

And although we sometimes do not understand why someone moves away from us, although we really want them to stay, the lessons they taught us remain with us for many, many years. Sometimes your life fills with light and meaning wonderful person, who appeared in it exactly when you really needed it, and sometimes fate gives you such a toxic interlocutor or colleague that it seems to you that you are almost ready to kill him on the spot, but then you realize that if it weren’t for him, you you would never have become who you are now.

Below you will find a few reasons why people may appear in our lives whether we want them to or not. I hope this article will help you better understand how we are connected to other people and where the never-ending flow of life takes us. And remember, just because you don’t see a reason for something, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

So, here are 8 reasons why the Universe sends us a variety of people:

1. To awaken us from within

There are people who make us doubt and question ourselves. Sometimes they become a permanent part of our life, sometimes they remain in it for a very, very short time, but in both cases they help us find another piece of ourselves. We don't have to love such people, but we can't do without them.

2. To warm our hearts with warmth

Such people appear in our lives when we feel like an extinguished candle, and it seems to us that we don’t care about anything. They do not allow sadness to fall on us with all its weight, and they do for us those seemingly little things that help us, gritting our teeth, to move on, no matter what. For the most part, such people fly through our lives at the speed of a meteorite, and we never hear about them again, but our memories of them are warmed with warmth, and we remember them for a very long time...

3. To be close to us

These are the people who become part of our lives - forever. They remain with us, despite all the adversities that confront us in our life path. These are our friends, relatives and loved ones. These are the ones who are always ready to catch us if we fall.

4. To teach us a lesson

These are the people from whom we can learn something. Sometimes their lessons turn out to be overly tough, and sometimes the “teachers” themselves are extremely far from ideal. But no matter how your relationship with these people develops, remember one thing - if the Universe is trying to teach you something, it does it for a reason, and some lessons can only be taught by scoundrels.

5. To help us grow above ourselves

These are the ones who help us overcome the darkest periods of our lives. They stay by our side when we break our hearts or lose people dear to us. Sometimes they stay with us forever, and sometimes they disappear unnoticed as soon as the light stripe replaces the dark one. It all depends on how big a role you want them to play in your life.

6. To remind us of something

These people, by their very presence, remind us of something that we would not have remembered without them. They remind us that we are not alone, that this world is ours common house, and there will always be those in it who are ready to lend a shoulder to us when we need it. And sometimes, when we are almost ready to give up, these strangers help us pull ourselves together and get back on our feet, reminding us that our lives are not nearly as hard as we think.

7. To show us what and who we deserve... or don't deserve.

These people are somewhat similar to those who help us grow above ourselves... more precisely, they are both similar and not. They can be the most wonderful or the worst people in your life - depending on the circumstances. It depends on these people who you will let into your lives and who you will drive away from them. For example, when faced with someone we really don’t deserve in our lives, no matter how much we sin, we draw conclusions and don’t let such toxic people get close to us and within a shot of a cannon. Unfortunately, we don’t always make the right conclusions the first time, but... that’s life.

8. To learn something from us

These are the people for whom we must become mentors and teachers. And who knows, perhaps by communicating with them, you will teach something not only to them, but also to yourself. It is not without reason that they say that this is why we need students, so that we have someone to learn from, and the Universe from time to time sends us people for whom it is extremely important to hear what we have to say to them.

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The first model, characteristic primarily of the United States, involves the institutional unification of master's and postgraduate levels, the learning process within which provided by the same administrative, technical and research structures (the so-called graduate school)... ... To solve the problem of efficiency scientific leadership the practice of collective scientific leadership is being introduced, in which two to three leaders participate, one of them may represent practical organizations associated with the field of research... ... First approach, which continues to exist in domestic science and education, focused on treating graduate students as students, which receive a scholarship to study or pay for their studies, bringing income to the university... ... The second approach, which is gaining more and more support, involves treating graduate students as entry-level workers, which need to pay salary... ... 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Ambivalence, frustration, rigidity - if you want to express your thoughts not at the level of a fifth grader, then you will have to understand the meaning of these words. Katya Shpachuk explains everything in an accessible and understandable way, and visual gifs help her with this.
1. Frustration

Almost everyone experienced a feeling of unfulfillment, encountered obstacles on the way to achieving goals, which became an unbearable burden and a reason for reluctance. So this is frustration. When everything is boring and nothing works.

But you shouldn’t take this condition with hostility. The main way overcome frustration - realize the moment, accept it, and be tolerant. A state of dissatisfaction and mental tension mobilize a person’s strength to deal with a new challenge.

2. Procrastination

- So, starting tomorrow I’m going on a diet! No, better from Monday.

I'll finish it later when I'm in the mood. There's still time.

Ah..., I’ll write tomorrow. It's not going anywhere.

Sound familiar? This is procrastination, that is, putting things off until later.

A painful state when you need it and don’t want it.

Accompanied by tormenting oneself for not completing the assigned task. This is the main difference from laziness. Laziness is an indifferent state, procrastination is an emotional state. At the same time, a person finds excuses and activities that are much more interesting than doing specific work.

In fact, the process is normal and inherent to most people. But don't overuse it. The main way to avoid this is motivation and proper prioritization. This is where time management comes to the rescue.

3. Introspection


In other words, introspection. A method by which a person examines his own psychological tendencies or processes. Descartes was the first to use introspection when studying his own mental nature.

Despite the popularity of the method in the 19th century, introspection is considered a subjective, idealistic, even unscientific form of psychology.

4. Behaviorism


Behaviorism is a direction in psychology that is based not on consciousness, but on behavior. Human reaction to an external stimulus. Movements, facial expressions, gestures - in short, everything external signs became the subject of study by behaviorists.

The founder of the method, American John Watson, assumed that through careful observation, one could predict, change or shape appropriate behavior.

Many experiments have been conducted to study human behavior. But the most famous was the following.

In 1971, Philip Zimbardo conducted an unprecedented psychological experiment, which was called the Stanford Prison Experiment. Absolutely healthy, mentally stable young people were placed in a suspended prison. The students were divided into two groups and assigned tasks: some had to play the role of guards, others prisoners. The student guards began to show sadistic tendencies, while the prisoners were morally depressed and resigned to their fate. After 6 days the experiment was stopped (instead of two weeks). During the course, it was proved that the situation influences a person’s behavior more than his internal characteristics.

5. Ambivalence


Many psychological thriller writers are familiar with this concept. So, “ambivalence” is a dual attitude towards something. Moreover, this relationship is absolutely polar. For example, love and hatred, sympathy and antipathy, pleasure and displeasure that a person experiences simultaneously and in relation to something (someone) alone. The term was introduced by E. Bleuler, who considered ambivalence one of the signs of schizophrenia.

According to Freud, “ambivalence” takes on a slightly different meaning. This is the presence of opposing deep motivations, which are based on the attraction to life and death.

6. Insight


Translated from English, “insight” is insight, the ability to gain insight, insight, suddenly finding a solution, etc.

There is a task, the task requires a solution, sometimes it is simple, sometimes complex, sometimes it is solved quickly, sometimes it takes time. Usually, in complex, labor-intensive, seemingly impossible tasks, insight comes. Something non-standard, unexpected, new. Along with insight, the previously established nature of action or thinking changes.

7. Rigidity


In psychology, “rigidity” is understood as a person’s unwillingness to act not according to plan, fear of unforeseen circumstances. Also referred to as “rigidity” is the unwillingness to give up habits and attitudes, from the old, in favor of the new, etc.

A rigid person is a hostage to stereotypes, ideas that are not created independently, but taken from reliable sources.
They are specific, pedantic, and are irritated by uncertainty and carelessness. Rigid thinking is banal, cliched, uninteresting.

8. Conformism and non-conformism


“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to stop and think,” wrote Mark Twain. Conformity is a key concept social psychology. Expressed as a change in behavior under the real or imagined influence of others.

Why is this happening? Because people are afraid when they are not like everyone else. This is a way out of your comfort zone. This is the fear of not being liked, of looking stupid, of being out of the crowd.

A conformist is a person who changes his opinion, beliefs, attitudes, in favor of the society in which he is located.

Nonconformist is the opposite concept to the previous one, that is, a person who defends an opinion that differs from the majority.

9. Catharsis

WITH Ancient Greek word"katharsis" means "purification", most often from feelings of guilt. A process of long experience, excitement, which at the peak of development turns into liberation, something maximally positive. It is human nature to worry about various reasons, from the thought of an iron not turned off, etc. Here we can talk about everyday catharsis. There is a problem that reaches its peak, a person suffers, but he cannot suffer forever. The problem begins to go away, the anger goes away (for some), the moment of forgiveness or awareness comes.

10. Empathy


Do you experience together with the person who tells you his story? Do you live with him? Do you emotionally support the person you are listening to? Then you are an empath.

Empathy – understanding people’s feelings, willingness to provide support.

This is when a person puts himself in the place of another, understands and lives his story, but, nevertheless, remaining with his reason. Empathy is a feeling and responsive process, somewhere emotional.

There are moments that only a creative person can understand, because he notices much more than people of other professions. In this article, we tried to collect moments that throw creative people off balance.

1. “Lucky you! It’s so cool to write/draw/play an instrument/sing instead of working!”

What if I told you that this is my job? And, yes, it's not always as cool as you think! We also get tired, because creativity requires much more effort, your job, where you pretend to be working most of the time.

2. “Listen, why don’t you find yourself a NORMAL job?”

What do you think is normal work? Doing something you don't like just because it's a “stable job”? No, thanks.

3. “You must have a lot of free time if you manage to do all this.”

I painted this picture over my weekend. What did you do this weekend? What? Have you watched all the seasons of “House of Cards”? Well done!

4. “Oh, do you play guitar? Can you do Tsoi?” (variations of the question apply to any creative activity)

Is that really all you care about? Yes, I can Tsoi...

5. When your instrument is called incorrectly...

Source: Creative people are PISSED!

Well in the end! A button accordion is not an “accordion”! A grand piano is not a “big piano”! If you don’t know the name of the instrument, it’s better to just ask.

6. Signing cups doesn't seem like such a bad idea anymore.

7. “How do you come up with all this?”

I don't know how I come up with ideas! They just come and that’s it, what’s the question?

Just this one word is enough to make your eyes twitch and your whole body tense.

9. When your work is criticized by someone who doesn’t understand anything about it

For what? Just why are you doing this? Criticize what you know a lot about.

10. Siri...

Source: Overheard by musicians

The note "Ri"? We understand the attempt to make a joke about the name “Siri”... but this is very strange.

11. When you are a musician and they invite you to a karaoke bar

You literally feel sick from the drunken howl into the microphone. And it’s better not to convince us to go to karaoke with the phrase “Come on! Drink a little and you won’t care!”

12. That feeling when an idea that seemed brilliant yesterday seems completely ridiculous today.

Disgusting feeling...

13. “Build a serious relationship and start living normally! What do you even have besides your creativity?”

https://youtu.be/WUGLBEXPMdw

Stop teaching us how to live already. U creative people your views on life.

14. “You do it. I'll know it's what I need when I see it.”

Designers know this phrase especially well. Of course, Mr. Customer, I’ll make 100,500 options, and then when I hear “let’s give you a couple more options, this doesn’t fit,” I’ll hang myself.

15. When you are forced to do any work that is at least minimally related to your profession

And it starts with school years. Remember these pathetic attempts to keep your secrets creativity so as not to be forced to participate in any school event?