Read the psychology of your holes. Mikhail Borodyansky - “The Psychology of Your Holes

Dedicated to Viktor Tolkachev

Abridged electronic version

In 1994, I attended a strange seminar. It was not curiosity that brought me there, but rather a longing for something new. This was not the most fun period of my life: I did not have the personal and sexual relationships that I dreamed of, I earned much less than I wanted, and, as it seemed, I was not doing at all what God gave me Life for.

The host of the seminar, an energetic guy named Viktor Tolkachev, promised to teach everyone present to understand themselves and others, live in harmony with themselves and others, achieve success in their careers and get all the joys from life in 12 lessons. When sexual harmony and a happy family life were added to this list, I, like a “normal” person, stood up and headed for the exit. At that moment it became absolutely clear to me that all this was complete nonsense.

And indeed, a week later I approached Tolkachev, but for something completely different. I told him that I also want to conduct such training. “You can do it,” Viktor answered, after thinking a little (he loved being called that way - with the emphasis on the last syllable). And two weeks later he gave me his first book - “The Luxury of Systems Thinking” - with a dedicatory inscription:

“Mishke, with the hope of reciprocity.”

I understood perfectly well what it was about, and even then I thought about the book that you are now holding in your hands.

18 years have passed since then. I feel fulfilled in my profession and in my personal life. The understanding of myself that Viktor Tolkachev once gave me has become more holistic, every day it helps me unlock my potential: I publish a psychological magazine, create large-scale Internet projects, conduct live trainings, build a successful company and make money in those ways that which bring me pleasure.

Thanks to our deep understanding of each other, my wife and I have been able to maintain strong feelings for many years and successfully overcome the natural difficulties of family life. Accepting our children's natural characteristics helps us provide them with support and the conditions for their development so that they grow up free, responsible and happy. Plus, I feel healthier and stronger than I did 20 years ago.

Therefore, I have a great desire to pass on my knowledge and experience further: over the years, in St. Petersburg and other cities, I have conducted more than two hundred trainings, which have trained more than three thousand people. They successfully apply the acquired knowledge in work and in personal relationships, and some already conduct training on the vector system themselves.

Our relationship with Viktor was not always smooth: we argued, proved something to each other, and each moved on in our own direction. Sometimes we disagreed so much that we might not communicate for several months. When all the disagreements were left behind, Viktor presented me with a collection of articles, one of the authors of which he was. This happened shortly before his death, and the inscription on this book to this day gives me strength to continue our common cause:

“To Mikhail, the official heir and favorite from one of the authors”.

From the publisher: about the vector system

In 1908, Sigmund Freud published the article “Character and Anal Eroticism,” which became the beginning of the psychoanalytic teaching on character. Having briefly described in this article the psychological characteristics of people with high sensitivity of the anus, Freud set a task for his followers:

“We should pay attention to other types of characters and find out whether in other cases there is a connection with certain erogenous zones.”

And the followers did not have to wait long. Soon new articles on this topic appeared: Ernest Jones - “On anal-erotic character traits”, Hans von Hallingberg - “Anal eroticism, love of fear and stubbornness”, as well as two articles about other erogenous zones (holes on the body) and related with them characters: Isidore Zadger - “Urethral Erotica” and “Erotics of the Skin and Muscular System”. Thus, at the beginning of the last century, character types associated with openings on the torso were briefly described: anal, urethral, skin and muscle. At the end of the twentieth century, St. Petersburg psychologist Viktor Konstantinovich Tolkachev (1947–2011), inspired by the works of Freud and his colleagues, described character types associated with openings on the head (eyes, ears, nose and mouth). As Tolkachev himself said, this became possible thanks to his teacher, Academician Vladimir Aleksandrovich Ganzen (1909–1996), whose book “System Descriptions in Psychology” served as the basis for a systematic view of sensitive openings.

Thus, Viktor Tolkachev created a holistic system that includes eight human characters. He introduced the concept of “vector” and called his theory “applied system-vector psychoanalysis.” A vector is understood as a set of psychological and physiological qualities (character, habits, health, etc.) associated with one of the sensitive openings on the human body. Unlike the usual concept of “personality type” (which is usually one), there are several vectors in a person, and all of them can have different potential: from 0 to 100%. This system became the basis of Viktor Tolkachev’s training, which he conducted for thirty years in Russia, Germany and the USA: during this time, more than six thousand people became his students.

Mikhail Borodyansky, one of the first students of Viktor Tolkachev, turned vector theory from cognitive-descriptive into practical and called it a “system of psychological vectors.” His main contribution was the introduction of a new concept "vector acceptance", which turned out to be key for the practical application of this knowledge. Acceptance is an attitude towards the manifestations of our own or someone else’s vector when we perceive them without judgment, that is, without dividing them into good and bad, necessary and unnecessary. In addition, acceptance is the recognition that any manifestation of a vector serves something, even if we cannot understand it now. Mikhail Borodyansky created a formula for calculating the acceptance of a vector and co-authored a test that allows one to assess the innate potential of each vector and the degree of its acceptance. Anyone can take the Tolkachev-Borodyansky test on the Internet at Psy8.ru

In addition to Mikhail Borodyansky, several students of Viktor Tolkachev are developing vector theory in various directions, conducting trainings, writing articles and books. Among them are Lyudmila Perelshtein (the book “Beware: Children! Or a manual for parents who can be surprised”), Elena Kudryavtseva (trainings and articles on the use of the vector system in consulting), Yuri Burlan (portal “System-vector psychology”), Alexander and Tatyana Prel (book “Why did we grow up like this?”) and others.

The book “The Psychology of Your Holes” combines knowledge and experience accumulated over several decades. It describes in detail eight types of character, provides an algorithm for accepting and implementing vectors in oneself and in other people, and uses many practical examples to show how to use this knowledge in a variety of situations.

Getting to know vectors and accepting them will help the reader build harmonious relationships with himself and others, feel whole, find his own path in life and follow it harmoniously and with pleasure.

I wish you a fascinating read and success in learning about yourself.

Anatoly Sekerin

Director of the publishing house "Lomonosov"

NOTE

Some ideas and examples given in this book are taken from the seminars of V.K. Tolkachev, others - from the author’s own experience and his colleagues. In case of any coincidences or analogies in the text, it would be correct to recognize the authorship of such fragments as V.K. Tolkachev.

Chapter 1. Brown vector - anus

Where it all started

The system of psychological vectors originates from a short article by Sigmund Freud, written in 1908. In a work entitled “Character and Anal Eroticism,” Freud briefly described the psychological characteristics of people in whom the anal area is particularly sensitive: “Among my patients, I met a special type of person with a combination of certain character traits. In childhood, they all exhibited a number of characteristics associated with one physiological function. I got the impression that this character is organically connected with the work of a specific organ in our body...”

What's interesting about this hard-to-read text?

It is no secret that many scientists (for example, Hippocrates) have long associated human character with the activity of the heart, liver and other internal organs. But Freud in his research spoke about something completely different. He proceeded from the fact that our body is a closed system that connects (communicates) with the external environment through several “holes.” It’s easy to calculate the hole options if you take into account the places on our body where the continuous skin is interrupted:

6. Urethra (that is, the urethra); This also includes the vagina.

7. Skin (more precisely, the “own” openings of the skin: pores, sebaceous and sweat glands).

8. Navel* (let’s mark it with an asterisk, since after birth it ceases to be an opening. But don’t think that our character is formed only after birth!).

So, Freud’s main idea was that it is these holes, or more precisely, the sensitivity of these zones that have the strongest influence on our character. A hundred years ago, Freud did not yet know (or was not ready to openly declare) that the sensitivity of our holes determines all areas of human life: from health to sexual preferences, from the choice of profession to the style of doing business.

Do you know such people? If among your relatives or friends there are those whose main traits are neatness, thrift or stubbornness, then you have a good idea of who will be discussed in this chapter. Or maybe you even know entire nations whose neatness and thrift are legendary?

Freud then continues: “Apparently, they belonged to that category of babies who prefer not to have a bowel movement when they are put on the potty, since the act of defecation gives them pleasure...”

Many will think: “What nonsense?! How can defecation be enjoyable? And what does this have to do with human manifestations, especially in business?!” Well, let's find out.

It is known that a person is born with genetically determined external characteristics, physique conditions, health characteristics and many other qualities. In addition to all of the above, we have genetically different sensitivity of our “erogenous zones”. And the erogenous zones are those same eight holes with the skin surrounding them. Some of us are born with especially sensitive ears and keen hearing, others with especially sensitive eyes and acute vision, etc.

Moreover, “sensitivity” here means not only the ability to perceive the world around us. Sensitivity is also a special tenderness (vulnerability, insecurity) of a sensory organ or some area on the body, that is, sensitivity to damage, microbes and other external influences. Therefore, a sensitive eye is not only especially keen, but also especially tender: a small speck in the eye can become a big problem for such a person.

Another feature of a “sensitive” organ or zone is the need to receive appropriate pleasure. Very simply, we can say that a sensitive eye “loves” to look at beautiful views, a sensitive ear - to listen to beautiful sounds, a sensitive nose - to smell pleasant smells (which, of course, everyone has their own), etc. If the sensitive organ receives enough such pleasures, then he is in harmony and balance (that is, healthy). But if there is not enough pleasure, then health problems begin - not only physical, but also psychological.

Resume.

Sensitive area:

- this is an area on our body associated with one of the eight openings (types of openings);

- has an enhanced perception of the surrounding world;

- zone, the degree of sensitivity of which is determined genetically;

- particularly sensitive to damage (that is, more tender, vulnerable, “unprotected” than others);

- needs to receive her typical pleasure (impact) and suffers in its absence.

Since the anus belongs to the eight openings of our body, there are people among us (and there are many of them) who are genetically - from the moment of conception - with increased sensitivity of the anal zone. These are exactly the people for whom sitting on the toilet and other impacts on the buttocks are a pleasure.

Freud classified such people as having an anal character type. But the words “character type” are limiting, so in our system the concept “vector” is used instead. Firstly, there can be several vectors in one person, and a “type” is just a type (that is, one). And secondly, each vector can have a different value: from 0 to 100 percent.

It is the combination of eight vectors (according to the number of holes) that makes up our character.

In this book, people with high anal sensitivity are called owners of the brown vector or, for short, By brown people, and Viktor Tolkachev called this vector “anal”.

You can take the vector test on the website www.psy8.ru.

First habits

How are the features characteristic of the brown vector formed?

Let's take this story as an example. Imagine a little boy who was put on the potty in the morning. And this baby’s anal area has increased sensitivity since birth, and all influences on it bring him extraordinary joy. Instead of doing what his mother wants him to do, the baby just sits on the potty and enjoys it. He could have sat there for an hour or two if he had been allowed to, but that was not the case. Mom is in a hurry to go to work, and therefore with the words: “Well, why are you sitting down?!” Well, let's hurry up!" trying to pull his stubborn son off the potty.

In the most pleasant moments of a child’s life, they are deprived of pleasure and are constantly tugged at with the words “come on faster.” What will this lead to? Throughout his childhood and adult life, such a person will avoid those who are in a hurry or rush him, because the longer and more calmly he does any task, the better he feels.

Please note that calmness and slowness are important qualities of the brown vector at any age. Therefore, if you do not wish harm to Brown, you should never rush him. (You will read about how to “accelerate” such a person in the chapter “Meaning and Acceptance.”) If a Brown child is constantly tugged and prodded, he may begin to stutter, become neurotic, or suffer from serious intestinal diseases. The same applies to adults.

But the story continues: the mother (the one who is in a hurry to get to work), without waiting for the result, pulled the baby off the potty, quickly dressed him and ran out of the house with him. And the boy, who did not receive his joys on the potty, at that moment did what his mother had been waiting for for so long... What will happen next? Perhaps his mother will return home with him, quickly change his clothes, and as punishment - so that he doesn’t behave like that tomorrow - she will spank him on the butt.

The punishment of a loving mother will be in the very place where the baby has increased sensitivity. Do you think the boy will act differently tomorrow? No way! Life gave him two pleasures at once. This is how Brown children can develop stubbornness: they unconsciously provoke situations in which they get an impact on their significant zone.

Of course, there are Brown people who have never faced a similar situation in their lives. But one way or another, the Brown child will provoke suitable events in his life where stubbornness will play into his hands.

The little boy cannot understand how this “thing” that brought him such joy, according to the ideas of his mother, the closest and dearest person, turns out to be disgusting. This leads him to such confusion that deep down the baby may be afraid: “I’m somehow not like that. If even my mother cannot understand me, then it’s better for me to remain silent about my joys. And in general, it’s better for me to remain silent more, so as not to find myself in a stupid position again.” As a result, such a child may withdraw into himself and become silent. The brown vector is already an introvert and phlegmatic by nature, but the degree to which these qualities are manifested strongly depends on the experiences experienced in childhood.

As you can see, a genetically based predisposition is not yet absolutely fatal. This is just a potential that can develop in different people to different degrees. It is very important to understand that if a certain potential absent since birth, there is no way to develop it.

Wisdom of the Organism

Some Brown people, even in adulthood, like to sit on the toilet longer, and therefore try to make this place more cozy and comfortable. They equip it with bookshelves, paintings, sometimes even a telephone or TV, not to mention a variety of lighting and music options. By the unusually decorated toilet, you can easily determine the bright vector of its owner. If your friend started building a dacha with a comfortable toilet, then you can foresee that this dacha will have cleanliness, order and other attributes of the brown vector.

Of course, such people attach great importance to the quality of toilet paper: it should be very soft and multi-layered. And, of course, the Brown Man will not use a newspaper for these purposes - he is too protective of his sensitive area.

Typically, such a predilection for the toilet is criticized by our society (especially in childhood - by parents, educators), and therefore these desires are eventually repressed into the unconscious, and the person stops paying attention to his significant zone. But the genetically inherent high sensitivity cannot disappear anywhere, even if we are not aware of it. Our Organism will still experience a deep longing for missing pleasures. And for the brown vector, pleasure is when there is an impact (stimulation, pressure) on the anal area.

What can such an Organism “come up with” so that a significant zone receives stimulation? Yes, a lot of things, for example, constipation - this is where there is strong pressure on the sensitive receptors. And it doesn’t matter that you have to wait for such stimulation for several days - the Brown man enjoys the wait. How will the Organism do this? It’s very simple: the digestive processes are controlled by our brain (unconsciously) - it’s not for nothing that most diseases of the gastrointestinal tract are psychosomatic. For our unconscious, “creating” constipation is quite simple, even for several years. Therefore, it is not surprising that many people suffering from habitual constipation are prominent representatives of the brown vector.

Our unconscious is no less inventive in choosing means of healing. After all, if, for example, you give an enema, this will not only help the Brown man in solving his problem, but will also create additional stimulation of his significant zone. You may have heard of people who regularly use multiple enemas for “deeper cleansing” and even write books on the subject. Without in any way disputing the effectiveness of such healing methods, I would like to emphasize: only those with a pronounced brown vector will use them. And, of course, it helps them the most.

If a person does not have this vector, then he will not act in a similar way. Many authors of health systems who did not have the brown vector recommended various methods of healing (including constipation): running, fasting, diets, etc., but refrained from using enemas. They were simply representatives of other vectors.

In addition to direct impact on the sensitive area (enemas, etc.), there are many other ways to get pleasure. For example, any activity related to seat in one place is already pleasant for Brown people.

The brown man says to his friend: “Well, when I retire, I’ll buy myself a rocking chair, sit down and sit for a week.” He asks him in surprise: “What then?” “And then...,” Brown sighs sweetly, “then I’ll start swinging!”

Yes, rocking on a chair or in a rocking chair is a common symptom of such people. They also like to sit with their arms or legs under their buttocks. Therefore, when you see a person sitting on his own heel, you can have no doubt about the severity of his brown vector.

Such people are especially prone to sedentary professions, which involve quiet and painstaking work. These are, first of all, writers, accountants, archival and museum curators, truck drivers, as well as programmers, lawyers and many others.

In addition to sitting quietly in one place, Browns love activities that involve active movements of the buttocks. Cycling, rowing and, of course, horse riding bring them much desired pleasure. Just don’t confuse riding a horse with loving the horse itself. The brown man, after riding, easily parts with his horse and goes home. And there are people (representatives of the black vector) who spend a lot of time with the animal, caring for it and receiving additional joy from this communication.

Completeness

The most important quality of a Brown person is the desire for completion of any process. Whatever business this person undertakes, he will try to bring it to the end, to the point. This is his deepest need, otherwise he simply will not enjoy his work.

At first glance, this is a positive character trait: it makes the Brown person reliable and indispensable when performing the most important and painstaking work. But it also happens differently: if the situation has changed and completing the work started has lost all meaning, Brown will still find it difficult to stop in the middle, and he will come up with any excuses to bring the matter to the end.

Imagine, for example, a production director managing a large team. After the start of a new project, the market situation has changed dramatically and it’s time to adjust the direction of activity. All employees understand this, but the director stands his ground: the project will be continued and completed. Just don’t think that he has intellectual problems and doesn’t understand that it’s time to stop. Brown’s intellect is all right, but he has an internal psychological need to finish everything, and it is very difficult for him to break himself in this place. This unconscious desire can be so strong that a person requires a deep understanding of himself and considerable mental strength to refuse to continue an unpromising business.

The same trend manifests itself in personal life. When Brown realizes that he has been uncomfortable in his existing relationship for many years, he still does not dare to break it off. And the partners of such people, often not without success, use this “brown” feature to achieve their own goals.

This character trait can provoke tragic events in the sex life of Brown men: a similar situation is called the “sweet French death.” An elderly man strives to satisfy his insatiable partner, but realizes that he lacks his own strength. Then, obeying the habit of doing everything to the end, he draws some kind of energy from the outside (maybe “from outer space”), satisfies the woman, and he dies...

This quality of Brown employees is sometimes taken advantage of by cunning managers. They give a task to a subordinate, and an hour later they say that the first task can be postponed for now, but now they urgently need to do something else. Such bosses already know from experience that the Brown employee will stay at work and complete both tasks, otherwise he will feel bad.

Perfectionism and pedantry

Another important quality of a brown vector is perfectionism, or the desire for perfection in everything. For a perfectionist, there are no trifles in any work; he is ready to spend significant time and effort to “hone” details that have little effect on the final result. To be honest, in our daily lives we often lack this quality in the people around us, especially when we encounter various customer service providers. If you hear a car mechanic say: “It doesn’t affect the speed!”, then you understand that his brown vector is probably not very developed.

Good quality perfectionism? Probably yes, but not always either. Of course, it's nice to do business with someone who pays attention to detail, but this tendency can look different when there is no time or energy left for the little things. For example, such a production director will endlessly find fault with his subordinates because of minor flaws that are inevitable in any new product (goods or services). This can continue until competitors bring the same thing to the market, albeit not so perfect, but today.

The perfectionism of the brown vector is clearly manifested already in childhood. If such a child sits down to write an essay, he tries to do it as accurately as possible and without mistakes. But his tension is so strong that at the very end he still makes a mistake... What happens next? You probably guessed it: the child takes a blank sheet of paper and rewrites everything again. But he is already tired and in the middle he accidentally makes a mistake again. At this point, the parents are running out of patience: “Let’s cover it up/paint it over, just don’t rewrite it anymore!”

However, he is adamant: he again takes out a blank sheet and rewrites everything from the beginning. From the outside it may seem that such a child is “trained” by his parents, but in fact, a Brown child may not have Brown parents at all (yes, despite genetic conditioning, we do not always repeat the vectors of our mothers and fathers - more about this we'll talk about it in the next chapter). It is important to understand that such a child does not try because of grades at school: he does not need “A’s”, the most important thing for him is the internal awareness that he did the best he could.

Dedicated to Viktor Tolkachev

Abridged electronic version

At the door I turned around. The presenter looked at me and said without any emotion: “Stay until the third lesson.” Why did I stay? I just wanted to go up to him later and defiantly ask: “Well? Why the hell did I lose three evenings here?”

“Mishke, with the hope of reciprocity.”

I understood perfectly well what it was about, and even then I thought about the book that you are now holding in your hands.

“To Mikhail, the official heir and favorite from one of the authors”.

From the publisher: about the vector system

“We should pay attention to other types of characters and find out whether in other cases there is a connection with certain erogenous zones.”

Dedicated to Viktor Tolkachev

Abridged electronic version

“Mishke, with the hope of reciprocity.”

I understood perfectly well what it was about, and even then I thought about the book that you are now holding in your hands.

“To Mikhail, the official heir and favorite from one of the authors”.

From the publisher: about the vector system

“We should pay attention to other types of characters and find out whether in other cases there is a connection with certain erogenous zones.”