As we know, everything is connected: if you hang your head and slouch, you will immediately feel insecure.
But it’s worth it even for you bad mood raise your head, straighten your shoulders and smile, how everything around you is changing and you are already the kings of the ball.
In order to change your life (and in any direction), you need very little - just start taking action. But this “simple” is not always that simple.
Sometimes we know what to do, but these actions seem scary to us. And sometimes we have neither a clear plan nor an understanding of how to make this plan.
1. Create your own “Calendar for clearing the House of unnecessary things”, distributing the cleaning of various areas of the home over the days.
Day 1: We sort through magazines.
Day 2: We disassemble the DVD.
Day 3. We sort out the books.
2. Live by the mantra: “There is a place for everything and put everything in its place.” Try to follow the following 4 rules for all 10 days:
1. If you take something, put it back later.
2. If you open something, close it.
3. If you drop something, pick it up.
4. If you take something down, hang it back.
3. Walk through your home and find 100 things that need fixing or a little touching up. For example, change a light bulb, seal a hole in the wallpaper, screw in a new socket, etc.
Happiness
4. Finally, follow the advice that psychologists from all countries and absolutely different views— write on a piece of paper from 5 to 10 things for which you are grateful in your life every day.
5. Create a list of 20 small things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one of these things a day for the next 100 days. For example, eat your lunch on a bench in the park, walk in the park with the dog in the evening, 1 hour of watercolor painting, etc.
6. Keep a diary of your mental chatter - that is, write down your thoughts and feelings that arise throughout the day. For example, how many times a day have you accused yourself of something, how critical are you of others, how many times a day have positive thoughts come to your mind, etc.
7. For the next 100 days, try to have a good laugh at least once a day.
Study or self-development
8. Choose a difficult book that you still haven’t decided to read, but wanted to. Read it in 100 days from cover to cover.
9. Learn something new every day. For example, the name of a flower, the capital of a distant country, the name of your favorite dog breed, etc. And in the evening you can go over in your head all the new things you learned over the past day, take out a dictionary and learn a new word.
10. Stop complaining for the next 100 days. Negative thoughts lead to negative results. Every time you feel like complaining, try to stop yourself.
11. Set your alarm a minute earlier every day for 100 days. Try to get up immediately after the alarm clock rings, open the windows, and do some light exercise. After 100 days, you will wake up 1.5 hours earlier without much effort.
12. For the next 100 days, keep “Morning Pages” - a simple stream of consciousness in the morning, which you will write down in a special notebook. This should be the first thing you do after you wake up.
13. For the next 100 days, try to focus your attention on the thoughts, words and images of who you want to become and what you want to achieve.
Finance
14. Create a budget. Write down every penny you spend in 100 days.
15. Search good advice on finance on the Internet and select 10 of them. Try to follow them for the next 100 days. For example, going to the store with a limited amount of cash and without a credit card, doing several things in one trip to save on gas, etc.
16. Pay in stores only with paper money and put the remaining change after shopping in a piggy bank. After 100 days, calculate how much you can save.
17. For 100 days, do not buy anything that you do not really need (this means quite large purchases). Use this money to pay off a loan (if you have one) or put it in a deposit account for six months.
18. For 100 days, devote at least 1 hour a day to finding or creating a source of additional income.
Time management
19. For the next 100 days, carry it with you everywhere. notebook. Write down all the ideas and thoughts that come to your mind, make your to-do list, add new appointments literally on the go right after your calls.
20. Monitor how you use your time for 5 days. Use the information you've gathered to create your "time budget": the percentage of your total time spent on the things you do each day. For example, house cleaning, time to travel to work, rest, etc. Make sure you stay within your budget for the next 95 days.
21. Identify a low priority task that you can not do for 100 days, and replace it with something that is really important.
22. Identify 5 ways your time is wasted and limit that time for the next 100 days. For example, do not watch TV for more than 1.5 hours, do not spend more than 1.5 hours a day in social networks etc.
23. For the next 100 days, stop multitasking and do only one important thing a day.
24. For the next 100 days, plan your day the night before.
25. For the next 100 days, do the most important things on your to-do list first, and then everything else.
26. Over the next 14 weeks, review each week. During your weekly survey, answer the following questions:
What have you achieved?
What went wrong?
What did you do right?
27. For the next 100 days, at the end of each day, tidy up your desk, sort out your papers and office supplies. So that every morning you will have order on your desktop.
28. Make a list of all the promises and commitments you have made for the next 100 days, then take a red pen and cross off everything from the list that will not bring you joy or bring you closer to your goals.
29. Over the next 100 days, before you switch from one task to another during the day, ask yourself whether this is the best use of your time and resources.
Health
30. Losing about half a kilo of weight requires burning 3,500 calories. If you reduce your calorie intake by 175 each day, you will lose approximately 2.5 kg after 100 days.
31. For the next 100 days, eat vegetables 5 times a day.
32. For the next 100 days, eat fruit 3 times a day.
33. Choose one of your favorite but not very healthy foods and replace it cold turkey for 100 days.
34. In the next 100 days, eat from smaller plates to control the amount of food you eat.
35. For the next 100 days, use 100% juice instead of substitutes with a large number Sahara.
36. For the next 100 days, drink only water instead of soda.
37. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy breakfasts.
38. Make a list of 20 easy and healthy dishes that you can eat for lunch and dinner.
39. Make a list of 10 easy and healthy snacks.
40. Use your healthy meal lists to plan your meals for the week ahead. Eat this way for the next 14 weeks.
41. For the next 100 days, keep a food journal to see if you are deviating from your menu plan.
42. For the next 100 days, spend at least 20 minutes exercising every day.
43. For the next 100 days, always carry a pedometer with you and try to walk 10,000 steps a day.
44. Set up your scale and hang a chart with your bathroom. At the end of each of the 14 weeks, weigh yourself and record data on weight loss (gain), changes in waist size, etc.
45. For the next 100 days, set a reminder on your watch or computer to repeat every hour to drink water.
46. For the next 100 days, meditate, breathe, visualize—make it your daily ritual to calm your mind.
Relationship
47. Every day for the next 100 days, find something positive about your partner and write it down.
48. Over the next 100 days, keep an album of your joint activities and start scrapbooking. At the end of your experiment, give your partner the resulting album and a list of all the positive things you observed during those 100 days.
49. Identify 3 actions that you will take every day for the next 100 days to strengthen your relationship. It could be saying “I love you” or a hug every morning.
Social life
50. Chat with someone new every day for the next 100 days. This could be your neighbor with whom you have never communicated before, your comment on a blog where you have never written anything before, a new acquaintance on social networks, etc.
51. For the next 100 days, focus on connecting with people you admire and respect.
52. Over the next 100 days, if someone has offended or upset you, think for a minute before you respond.
53. For the next 100 days, don't even think about making a final verdict until you've heard both sides.
54. For the next 100 days, try to do at least one good deed a day, no matter how small it is.
55. For the next 100 days, praise everyone who deserves it.
56. For the next 100 days, practice active listening. When the interlocutor speaks, listen to him, and do not rehearse your answer in your head, ask again to make sure that you heard everything correctly, etc.
57. Practice compassion for the next 100 days. Before you judge someone, try to look at the matter from their point of view. Be curious, find out more about the other person (his interests, beliefs, etc.)
58. For the next 100 days, live your life and don’t compare yourself to anyone.
59. Over the next 100 days, look for good intentions in the actions of others.
60. For the next 100 days, constantly remind yourself that everyone is doing the best they can. xx[[
Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to radically change your life to improve it. You don't even have to wait long to notice results. All you have to do is take small steps. Repeat them for a hundred days and you will be surprised at the results you get.
Decluttering
Make a list of a hundred places you want to declutter and follow the plan. Sort out books, old CDs, tidy up shelves and kitchen cabinets. Garbage often makes it difficult to improve your life.
Order
Designate a specific place for all the things you have and always leave them there.
Repair
Walk through your home and find one hundred items that need repairing or upgrading.
Gratitude
Every day, write down a list of things you are grateful for.
List of hobbies
Your success depends on your mood. Raise it by making a list of your favorite things and try to include them in your schedule for every day - for the next hundred.
Thought control
Developing a new lifestyle is impossible if you have a negative mindset. Control all your thoughts, positive and negative.
Laughter
For one hundred days, try to laugh sincerely at least once a day.
Reading
Pick a book that requires concentration and move forward a few pages each day.
Education
Constantly receive new information - find out the names of the trees that you can see through the window, learn a new song, learn unfamiliar words.
No complaints
Stop complaining for a hundred days. Negative words lead to negative thoughts, and they again cause negative words, which creates a vicious circle.
Alarm
Try to set your alarm at least a few minutes earlier every day. Try to actually get up when it rings. Open the windows, let in the light, stretch and start your day. If you reset your alarm clock by a minute every day, in a hundred days you will wake up an hour and forty minutes earlier than you are now.
Morning Pages
Keep a diary in the morning, writing three pages daily.
Thought control
Try to clear your mind of unnecessary ideas and impressions.
Expenses
Create a budget and track your money for 100 days.
Saving
Search the Internet for secrets of frugal living and try to use them.
Accumulation of change
Try to pay only in cash and save change every time. You will be surprised how much money you can save without much effort.
No purchases
Don't buy anything unless absolutely necessary
Hour a day
Take sixty minutes to find new source income.
Always with a notepad
Write down notes every day so you don't have to keep everything in your head.
Time control
Watch how you spend your time. Use the information received to create the correct schedule.
Wrong priorities
Choose at least one thing that you could stop doing - think about your priorities.
Waste of time
Identify what eats up your time and limit the minutes you spend on those activities.
No multitasking
Do only one thing at a time, don't get distracted.
Pre-made plan
Create a daily routine the evening before.
To-do list
For 100 days, do the most important thing on your list first.
Week in Review
Monitor your affairs throughout the week, monitor your results.
Workplace organization
Every day, clean up your desk, sort out your papers, and make sure you don't have a mess.
Extra little things
Make a to-do list and look at it carefully - cross out everything that does not bring you joy and benefit.
Consciousness
Every time you start a new project, ask yourself if this is the best way to spend your time.
Calorie control
To lose a kilogram, you need to burn seven thousand calories. By reducing your calorie intake by just two hundred, you will lose five kilos over the course of the experiment.
Vegetables
Try to eat five vegetables daily.
Fruits
Every day out of a hundred, eat three fruits.
Search for tasty dangers
Identify which food is interfering with your diet and forget about it.
Reduce your dishes
Eat from a small plate for 100 days.
Natural juice
For one hundred days, drink only fresh natural juice, without sugar or preservatives.
No soda
Skip sparkling water and drink plain water.
Breakfast ideas
Create simple, healthy food combinations to start your day.
List of lunches and dinners
Make a list of twenty lunch or dinner foods that are healthy to eat. 
Snacks
Always have a healthy snack on hand that doesn't require pre-cooking.
Menu plan
Plan your meals for the week ahead so you don't waste time on other days.
Food diary
Keep a diary of all your meals so you can figure out what you're doing wrong and track the number of calories you eat.
Sport
Spend at least twenty minutes of physical activity every day.
Pedometer
Walk ten thousand steps every day, consider all the movements you make.
Weight
Monitor your weight, body fat percentage and waist circumference.
Water consumption
Set yourself a reminder to drink water regularly throughout the day.
Meditation
Try to meditate daily, breathe properly and relax your mind.
Advantages of a partner
Constantly look for something good in your life partner and make a list.
Memories
Make a diary in which you will save all the most valuable moments. After a hundred days, re-read the list with your loved one.
Strengthening relationships
Think of three things that will help you strengthen your relationship. Do them daily. For example, confess your love, hug your loved one and go for at least a short walk.
Communication
Try to meet a new person every day. Maybe you start talking to a neighbor you haven't chatted with before, or follow an interesting social media profile.
Compliments
For one hundred days, try to say something nice to people you respect and love.
Reply to insult
For one hundred days, try to control yourself when you decide to respond to someone who offended you.
Prohibition on conviction
For a hundred days, don't even think about judging anyone, at least until you hear the story from each side.
Good works
Try to do at least one kind deed every day, even if it's a small thing, even if it's just sending a nice email to a friend.
Praise
Always give praise and compliments to those who deserve it. You will start receiving compliments in return, and this will make your life noticeably better.
Attention
Listen carefully to everyone who approaches you, focus on what they tell you, and do not try to think through the answer in advance. Be polite and try to understand what exactly the interlocutor wants to convey.
Sympathy
Try to understand the thoughts and problems of another person, understand his experience and life beliefs. You will be able to become more open to others.
No comparisons
Control only your own life, do not try to compare yourself with anyone else.
Understanding
Try to approach every action of those around you as thoughtfully as possible, think about what motivates people.
Important Reminder
Try to never forget that many people are trying to do the best they can. Don't blame or find fault.
Incredible facts
"We are what we continually do. Excellence is not one action, it is a habit." (Aristotle)
Scientists say that if you have willpower, it takes about 30 days for a person to form a new habit. Creating something new and going beyond your comfort zone – this is already 80 percent of success.
It is very important to do small but necessary changes every day for at least a month.
"How can you eat an elephant? A little bit every day." The same philosophy applies to making changes in your life. Trying to bite off more than you can chew will inevitably lead to problems with your digestive tract.
However, small, targeted bites will help you create simple, productive habits, and it will amazing way make positive changes and become passionate about your life.
When you start small, you don't need a lot of motivation to do it. The simple act of “starting” will give you momentum, and very soon the spiral of change will begin to spin.
Below are 30 tasks which must be completed within 30 days. If you approach the issue responsibly, you will see that each of them has potential that will help you introduce a new habit into your life.
Yes, there is overlap between some tips. And no, you shouldn't try to do everything at once. Take 2-5 and commit to them wholeheartedly over the next 30 days. Once you've developed these new healthy habits, move on to a few more.
1. Use words that are associated with happiness in your speech.
As a rule, when you ask someone “how are you?”, the answer you hear is “fine”, “I’m fine”, etc. Try the next time you are asked such a question and answer: “fabulous!”
This will certainly make the person smile and ask you what is causing these feelings. You say that you are healthy, your family is healthy, you live in a free country. There is no reason not to be happy.
The difference is simply in the choice of words. People who answer this way are not better than others, they are just much happier. Test it out for yourself over the next 30 days by practicing something similar.
2. Try something new every day
Variety is the spice of life. You can see or do something a million times, but the first time is always the same. As a result, the “first time” experience often leaves vivid emotions in our minds that illuminate our lives.
Make an effort and try something new every day for the next 30 days. It could be completely new look activity or just some minor experience, for example, a conversation with a stranger.
Once you get off the ground, many of these new experiences will open doors to new life opportunities.
Self-improvement methods
3. Do one selfless act every day.
What usually happens in life is that you get out what you put in. When you make a positive impact on someone's life, yours own life positive changes are also taking place.
Do something that helps other people feel happier and helps them suffer less. It will be a very rewarding experience. You will probably remember something you have done forever. Obviously, in this case, the scope of your activities is limitless.
4. Learn and practice a new skill daily
Self-confidence is a vital key to a healthy and productive life. To be self-confident, you need to master a basic set of skills and be able to handle them very well, or better yet, be a jack of all trades.
Contrary to what you may have learned in school, a jack of all trades will be much more prepared for life than someone with a highly specialized occupation. Plus, learning new skills is always fun.
Working on yourself
5. Teach someone something new
Inner happiness and zeal comes from applying these “gifts” on a regular basis. What do people usually thank you for? What are they asking you to help them with? Most people's talents and passions can help someone else in one way or another.
Perhaps you are good at painting, teaching mathematics, or maybe you are a good cook? For the next 30 days, try dedicating some time each day to share your talent and experience with others.
6. Spend one hour a day on your passion.
Do what interests you. It could be anything. For some it is a hobby, others find refuge in faith, others attend social clubs or take an active part in the city council.
In each case the psychological result is the same. A person does what he believes in very strongly. Such interaction helps you feel happy and life takes on meaning.
7. Be friendly with everyone, even those who are rude to you
Being friendly with someone you don't like doesn't mean you're being insincere. This shows that you are mature enough to control your emotions. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you, not because they are nice, but because you have a light within you.
Do this for 30 days and you won’t notice how the rudeness around you will dissolve.
Personality development
8. At any time in your life, try to concentrate on the positive aspects.
True winners in life cultivate optimism. They know how to create and manage their own happiness. No matter the situation successful person will always find a reason for optimism, because he knows that failure is an opportunity to grow and learn new lessons from life.
People who think optimistically see the world as a place filled with an infinite number of opportunities, especially in difficult times. Try to spend the next 30 days looking on the bright side of things.
9. Know how to admit defeat and learn from difficult situations
It's important to remember that everything we go through are life lessons. It's part of the experience. Never forget to learn your lesson, especially when things don't go your way.
If you didn't get the job you wanted, or the relationship isn't going the way you thought it would, it means only the best is in store for you. It is important to learn the lesson because it is the first step to something new and better.
In the next 30 days, try to remember and analyze all the life lessons that you have learned from life.
To make life better
10. Look back at your life and enjoy it here and now
Life happens to us every second. Ask yourself: How much of your life are you actually living rather than existing? Most likely, you, like most people, will answer this question: “not enough.”
The key is to focus a little less on “doing” and a little more on “being.” Remember, the only thing you have is the present moment. Life is now. Spend the next 30 days truly living and you won't be able to go back to your old routine.
11. Get rid of one thing every day for 30 days
There is so much clutter in our lives (in the office, in the car, in the house) and we are so used to it that we no longer notice how it affects us.
If you free the surrounding space from clutter, then the internal clutter will also disappear. Every day, find something unnecessary in your environment and throw it away. It's very simple. This may be difficult at first, and some resistance will inevitably follow.
However, over time, you will learn to get rid of unnecessary things and your mind will thank you for the effort.
12. Create something new
Creation is a process that inspires like nothing else. When you invent something new with your own hands, you are filled with an indescribable sense of integrity. Nothing can replace this.
The only point in this case is that you must be sincerely interested in it. If you create financial plans for clients during the day, and at the same time you hate them, then this type of activity does not count.
But if you have something that you love, and you can create something related to your passion, then life will shine with new colors. If you have never created anything just for the sake of creating it, be sure to try it.
13. Don't tell a single lie for 30 days
For all its apparent innocence, the white lies that ooze out of us are more dangerous than they seem. But you can get rid of it. Stop deceiving yourself and others, speak from your heart, only the truth.
14. Get up 30 minutes earlier every morning
Try waking up half an hour earlier, and you won't run around the house like crazy, afraid of being late. This feeling is familiar to every second of us. This half hour will help you avoid speeding tickets, being late for work and other unnecessary headaches.
Do this for at least a month, and then analyze how it affected your life.
Personal self-improvement
15. Get rid of three bad habits in 30 days
Are you eating too much fast food? Do you spend too much time playing video games? Or maybe you like to argue about anything? Every person knows his own bad habits. Pick 3 of them and stop doing them for a month. If you hold out, you won't want to go back to them anymore.
16. Watch TV less than 30 minutes a day
Entertain yourself with real emotions. Great memories are the product of interesting things life experience. Therefore, turn off the TV, computer, and go for impressions in real life.
Interact with the world, appreciate nature, pay attention to the simple pleasures life offers, just watch it unfold.
How to become better
17. Identify one long-term goal and work on it for an hour every day.
Break your goal down into small pieces and focus on working on each piece every day. It's important to keep the pieces small but consistent. The most difficult thing in this matter is to take the first step.
Over the next 30 days, regularly devote time to your dream. Start with a small dream and turn it into reality.
18. Read one chapter of a good book every day.
WITH endless stream Information on the Internet, often full of simple and shallow text fragments, people spend more and more time reading online. However, the network will never replace the wisdom that some classical works, carrying deep ideas to the world for many generations.
Books open doors to your mind and your life. Find the list good books and start reading today.
19. Watch or read something that inspires you every morning.
Sometimes all we need is to hear a rousing speech. For the next 30 days, before you eat breakfast or before leaving the house, watch a motivational video or read a story or blog that inspires you.
Improving yourself
20. Do something every day that makes you laugh.
Watch a funny video, read your favorite comic, or find a good joke on the Internet. A good, sincere laugh stimulates the brain and energizes a person. Best time for this it is the middle of the day.
21. For 30 days, forget about alcohol and other stimulants.
If you drink alcohol and other stimulants with enviable regularity, then try to get rid of them for at least 30 days. You will feel better. There are many other natural ways to get energy. For example:
- turn on the light, darkness provokes laziness.
- go out into the fresh air more often, it sharpens all your senses.
- Call a close friend: Talking to someone you care about is just the thing to boost your mood.
- reduce the amount of carbohydrates you consume, fruits such as raspberries, apples, oranges and grapefruits will fill you up with energy very quickly, eat less bread, dairy products and meat.
- Chew mint gum or drink mint tea to help you feel fresher.
- drink a glass of very cold water, this will “wake up” you.
- be organized, you will save a lot of energy if everything is in its place.
- practice altruism.
- Exercise and stretch regularly in the morning.
- drink more water, dehydration can reduce blood volume, which inevitably leads to fatigue.
- wear bright clothes. This trick has to do with the mood you project for those around you and the back and forth mood they project onto you.
22. Exercise at least half an hour every day for a month
Your health is the quality of your life. Don't let him get away. Eat right, exercise, and get an annual physical.
23. Purposefully put yourself in uncomfortable situations and face your fears daily.
Taking small, continuous steps into uncomfortable territory will help us get around the biggest barrier to positive change: fear.
Sometimes we are afraid that we won't succeed. Sometimes we subconsciously fear luck because we are afraid to deal with the mandatory professional growth that success requires.
Before changing your style in clothes, hairstyle and makeup, you can try to start with simple things that will not require the intervention of fashion industry specialists.First you need to analyze your appearance and identify the most attractive part of the body, focusing on this. For example, owners beautiful eyes They can work on their look. After all, a lively look attracts others. When placing emphasis on the lips, you need to take into account that the shape of the mouth changes throughout life depending on the circumstances. It will take some effort to maintain the corners of the lips in the correct position. Posture also plays an important role in the whole image. A raised head and a straight back characterize a person as confident. And a smile transforms a person and attracts the stronger sex. You need to look for your own versions of smiles, half-smiles. Facial expressions immediately give the interlocutor 50% of information about a person, so control is important here. Depressed mood, anger and irritability can be the causes of unpleasant facial expressions. The main thing in gestures is restraint and elegance of movements. Clenched fists and crossed arms can indicate a restless person who wants to defend himself. Fingers beating a drum can also irritate others.
Speaking about gait, it should be noted that this is a woman’s way of presenting herself in society. It is necessary to walk gracefully; home mirrors and shop windows on the street will help for this, revealing mistakes made.
You can teach yourself to behave correctly in 4 weeks, carefully honing your skills day after day, turning it into a good habit.
Transition to fundamental changes
Choosing hair and makeup can take some time. You need to think through everything in detail and come to some option, even consulting with professionals in this field. It takes girls about a month to choose the right option after a lot of deliberation. If a hairdresser can help you with your hairstyle and color, then when it comes to makeup, you need to go to a makeup artist. The most important thing is that the created image inspires its owner to good achievements.To find a suitable style of clothing, you need scrupulousness and a serious approach: go around all the stores, choose the appropriate style, fabric, color of clothing, consult with friends, and seek the help of stylists. This will drag on for another month. It is necessary to take into account the type of figure and face. It is important to understand that more than two bright colors cannot be combined in one outfit, and different styles. The new style will be complemented by accessories, the selection of which is also a big job. If you pair a formal necklace with a business jacket and complement it with a colorful scarf, the look will become extraordinary and tasteful.
As for the rules for wearing shoes, here it is necessary to note the style, convenience and its purpose (weekend or everyday). Young ladies with a large build or tall stature should remember that high-heeled shoes will only aggravate their figure flaws. Such a thin heel will give the appearance of instability and bulkiness.
All women are united by the desire to hide their age. Therefore, having set the goal of appearing younger, you need to pay special attention to the style of clothing according to age, since each age has its own. After all, we must agree that when a young girl dresses like an adult woman in the “vamp” style, or, conversely, a woman over 35 dresses like one, it looks wild.
If you are unsure, you can combine extraordinary details in one style, you can stick to classic styles, which you can always decorate with bright accessories.
By listening to these tips, you can get a new, fresh appearance created in just 100 days.
It is known that by changing facial features, makeup and clothing style, both personality and attitude to life must change.
They say that a habit is formed in about a month. We have already told you about how to get rid of bad habit, and now we have a more optimistic topic: how to form good habits. If you want to make a habit of doing something good, it requires determination and, dare I say it, cultivation. Therefore, it is worth challenging yourself for at least 30 days so that the results become noticeable. Yes, it's not easy. To determine whether you need to get involved in the Article Source magazine from which everyone steals articles - BroDude.ru about all this, ask yourself: “Who do I want to be in five years?” What habits will help you with this? Better start changing now, and your life will begin to change with you! It's never too late to improve, so choose one or several points at once and get started today! Keep a record of your progress, tell your friends about it and continue what you started. A word of warning: If you choose too many habits at once, you may fail—so don't overdo it.
1. Create your own “Calendar for clearing the House of unnecessary things”, distributing the restoration of order in various household areas over the days.
- Day 1: We sort through magazines.
- Day 2: We disassemble the DVD.
- Day 3. We sort out the books.
2. Live by the mantra:“There is a place for everything and put everything in its place.” Try to follow the following 4 rules for all 10 days:
- If you took something, put it back later.
- If you open something, close it.
- If you drop something, pick it up.
- If you take something down, hang it back.
3. Walk around the house and find 100 things that need to be repaired or slightly adjusted. For example, change a light bulb, seal a hole in the wallpaper, screw in a new socket, etc.
4. Finally follow the advice, which psychologists from all countries and completely different views repeat - write on a piece of paper from 5 to 10 things for which you are grateful in your life every day.
5. Create a list of 20 small tasks things you enjoy doing and make sure you do at least one of those things a day for the next 100 days. For example, eat your lunch on a bench in the park, walk in the park with the dog in the evening, 1 hour of watercolor painting, etc.
6. Daily half-hour walk.
Walking is good for your health, it relaxes you and serves as a source of inspiration. It's also easy and absolutely free! While walking, it is very interesting to look at other people, thinking about how they are similar and how they are different - among themselves and specifically with you. This way you will develop your powers of observation and empathy.
7. Time to praise yourself
Do you love yourself? Do you console yourself after you make a mistake? It is very possible that you are too demanding and harsh on yourself. This is all because our society sets such standards for people high standards, which are almost impossible to achieve. And that’s why we often think that we are not good enough, that we don’t deserve something. This is something like self-flagellation, which is often compared to self-abasement - and this is a completely different phenomenon, aimed at the opposite reaction of others.
In general, neither one nor the other is good. And this skill will teach you to accept you for who you are - even with flaws that you don’t really like. You will become less likely to be disappointed in yourself and begin to accept your imperfections as an integral part of life. And how others perceive you also depends on your attitude towards yourself.
8. Try a new recipe every day. If you want to learn how to cook, you need one thing: practice, practice, practice! Challenge yourself to try a new recipe every day and you'll learn new techniques and ingredients. This is also how you can get rid of bad eating habits and turn them into healthy ones.
9. Give up alcohol nicotine and other drugs for a month. You don't remember when last time came home from the party sober? Can you even have fun without being under the influence of substances that alter your perception? It's a great challenge to learn how to resist social pressure.
10. Write a story 50,000 words long per month. Ever dreamed of writing a book? Do it. Do it in a month.
11. Watch documentaries every day. Have you always dreamed of expanding your horizons? Fortunately, this is the 21st century, the era of computers, unlimited Internet and torrent trackers! You can find a lot online documentaries and learn almost everything about everything.
12. Read a chapter of a book every day. Yes, yes, we know: reading is useful, stop sitting at the computer and ruining your eyes, ruining them with a book, you will be well-read. If you don’t feel like it at all, read at least a chapter a day. It's easy, right?
13. Learn the subject, which you are interested in, in a month. Have you always wanted to understand animal psychology? Philosophy? Stories foreign literature Middle Ages? Educate yourself! Choose a topic, develop a plan - and go!
14. Every day take a new route to get to university or work. This good way get to know your city better, and also understand all kinds of transport routes - especially if you have recently moved. You will also turn your routine into an adventure and find out how many interesting things are hidden in seemingly familiar places.
15. Give up media for a month. Don't watch TV and stop reading newspapers and news sites. Limit yourself to reading, say, five blogs. Block your social media accounts. Stop overloading yourself with information, live simply. You will be surprised how much free time you will have!
16. Be inspired every day. Research has shown that people who have sources of inspiration are always happier, more pleasant, more productive, and stay on track when faced with challenges.
17. Take cold showers daily. A cold shower lifts your mood, relieves stress and illness, strengthens immune system and good for the skin.
18. Wake up early every day. Aristotle also said that waking up before sunrise is good for health, well-being and wisdom.
19. Don’t lie for a whole month. What a challenge! Stop deceiving yourself and others, speak from your heart. This will greatly develop your personality: you will begin to really think about the essence of things so that you don’t have to lie.
20. Do something that scares you every day. Fear is what stops you from becoming better. The only way to overcome it is to meet it halfway.
21. Stop complaining. You won't succeed from day one. Even if you're all positive, it's hard not to feel negative feelings all day. Don't be discouraged if it doesn't work out: everything comes with practice.
22. Meditate every day. The best time is immediately after waking up or before bed. Very useful!
23. Do something selflessly every day. Look around and help someone who deserves or even doesn't deserve your kindness. Help your neighbor take out the trash. Give money to a homeless person. Make notes about it.
24. Spend the day in silence. Many people know that there is such a practice as Vipassana. This is a 10-day meditation course. People come to Vipasanna centers and remain silent for 10 days, meditating for several hours a day. Many who took this course admit to themselves that their lives have changed completely.
Give yourself a day of silence. Don't talk to anyone, don't read books, don't communicate on social networks, don't write anything, don't watch TV. In general, spend the day completely alone with yourself. You will be surprised how this will change your life. You will feel how many unnecessary and useless thoughts are in your head. You will understand how much importance we place on our feelings and emotions, and how much they control you. The task on this day is to calm your mind and let your thoughts flow as they please. Your mind should be like the flat surface of water.
25. Stay awake for 41 hours. You will have to get up at 5.00 and go to bed at 22.00. Week at the Limit aims to show you that your capabilities are limited only by your imagination, that's all! One of the tasks of the week is to stay awake for 41 hours. That is, you get up at 05:00 on Thursday morning and go to bed only at 22:00 on Friday. This great technique, which will show you that during this 41 hours you will get your second wind several times. You will understand that the body takes strength from somewhere, even when it seems that there is no strength at all.
26. Don't stop asking. At least once a week you need to ask questions that most people don’t have time to answer. It is the timely questions asked that help keep your finger on the pulse of awareness.
Ask yourself:
- Is my life really going the way I want it to?
- Am I going my own way?
- How can I be even more efficient and productive?
- Am I giving 100%?
- Am I doing the best I can for my career?
- Am I solving problems to achieve what I want?
27. Plan daily. Every evening write a plan for the next day. Short, approximate, whatever - but there must be a plan. And in the evening - this is important. Even if the next day you never remember the existence of this plan, your productivity will increase significantly. Checked! And one more thing: do not forget to look at the global plan and ask yourself the question - are you moving there? Where? Are you moving anywhere at all? Why?
28. Try to live differently. In the smallest details. Take a new route to work. Go to an unfamiliar cafe or a very expensive store. Try a new sport. Try doing something you've never done before. Every day, while doing your usual things, ask yourself - what can I do a little differently right now? You need to create a habit of trying new things, gradually leaving the beaten path.
29. Get out of your comfort zone. Of course, all the previous points, if you really completed them, are already a good way out of your comfort zone. But here we will go further, look our fears in the eyes. And not only will we watch, but we will also fight with them. Are you afraid of heights? Let's go skydiving. If you are afraid of the boss, we go to the boss with fresh rationalization proposals. If you are afraid of unfamiliar companies, go to a party, in an unfamiliar company. And alone, so as not to hide behind conversations with a girlfriend/buddy. And we study in such field conditions.
30. Rest. What did you think - just work? Only rest with the obligatory exit from the house, the obligatory shutdown of the Internet, and always alone. And obligatory (and honest!) feedback to yourself. What was that? How did it go, what changes happened? And how to live further after all this?
If you want to be happier:
- Hang out with positive people.
- Every day, write down three good things that happened to you that day.
- Laugh. Even if sometimes you force yourself to do it. Joy hormones will come in handy.
- Spend more time in the sun. Or in well-lit rooms if it’s cloudy outside.
- Move (walk or exercise) for at least 20 minutes every day.
- Walk the dog or pet an animal.
- Hug at least one person a day.
- Call an old friend or loved one.
- Devote 30 minutes of your time a day to an activity you love that brings you pleasure and relaxes you.
- Buy something new (even something small, like new variety coffee).
If you want to better manage stress:
- Breathe deeply for two minutes. Concentrate on your breathing.
- Do 10 minutes of exercise.
- Listen to something calm and distracting that has nothing to do with the source of stress.
- Snuggle up with someone close (spouse, friend, or even a pet). Physical contact quickly calms.
- Get rid of the source of stress for a while. Leave the meeting for five minutes or take a break from your current tasks. Just switch to something.
- Smell essential oil geranium or lavender. They lower blood pressure (can be combined with point 11).
- Sit in the sun for five minutes.
- Draw something or color a picture.
- Talk to a friend for 10 minutes.
- Dedicate 10 minutes to self-care (take a shower, get your nails done or do your hair).
- Take a nap.
- Chew some gum.
If you want to become more confident:
- Write down three things you like about yourself. Then read them out loud.
- Stand up straight and lower your arms, letting them hang in a natural position.
- Wear clothes that suit you.
- Prepare for a difficult situation in which you need self-confidence. Write down your thoughts or speech and take the cheat sheet with you to the speech.
- Don't let yourself get nervous. Instead, go to a private place (such as a restroom or an adjacent room) where you can stretch and calm down. After this, concentrate on relaxation.
- Pay attention to the other person instead of feeling insecure.
- Repeat the mantra in your head.
- Make a list of things you like about yourself.
- Ask a close friend or relative to give you a compliment.
If you want to develop spirituality:
- Spend 15 minutes reading spiritual texts (such as the Bible).
- Take a walk in the forest.
- Perform one thoughtful act of kindness for a stranger.
- Give up one physical pleasure or material thing.
- Join a group of like-minded people from whom you can learn and gain inspiration.
- Look at the stars.
- Enjoy sunset or sunrise.
- Write down how the person you met that day could enrich your life.
If you want to become more attentive:
- Meditate. Start with 15 minutes a day, find a quiet place, close your eyes and focus on your breathing.
- Pay attention to the details around you. What color are the wings of a butterfly? What does this salad taste like? How many shades of green can you see now?
- Consciously let go of worries or regrets. Tell yourself: “I will take care of this in the future” or “The past is the past.”
- Focus on how you feel at that moment, such as how good you feel lying in your bed, or how invigorating the wind blowing on you is.
- Be emotionally invested in the current interaction. How does your friend feel about his problem? What emotions are you experiencing right now? What can you do to please or calm the person who is with you?
If you want to go on a date with someone:
- Spend an extra 20 minutes on your own hygiene. Don't leave the house without showering and getting ready.
- Smile more often.
- Avoid talking about negative topics or complaining about anything.
- Relax. Straighten your shoulders, sit up straight and straighten your arms, placing them palms up. An open posture will emphasize your self-confidence and approachability.
- Maintain eye contact.
If you want to appear sexier (to women):
- Open the skin a little. Pick your favorite body part (shoulders, legs, arms, cleavage) and wear clothes that leave it exposed.
- Give preference to red. Choose red lipstick or red nail polish, buy a red blouse or red shoes. Men will find you more attractive in red.
- Lean closer to him.
- Touch it.
- Wear heels.
If you want to appear sexier (to men):
- Keep your posture.
- Pull your shoulders back.
- Initiate gentle touch without hesitation. For example, touch her with your hand during a conversation or touch her back when you open the door for her and let her go forward.
- Put it on fashionable clothes which is required in each specific situation.
If you want to become a better lover:
- Extend foreplay five minutes longer than expected.
- Pay attention to your partner's reaction.
- Don't eat heavy food two hours before physical intimacy. If you must eat something during this time, choose foods that are easy to digest.
- Practice prolonged eye contact.
- Create the right atmosphere. Light the candles.
- Relax, laugh - have a fun time.
