This article will be about the most pressing issue - how not to make a mistake when choosing a student. September 1 is coming soon, and students will run to look for tutors, remembering that this year they are taking the Unified State Exam or a position at work that requires knowledge of the language becomes vacant. How to weed out those who will leave on their own after a few classes?

Such students can be recognized:

1. By advertisement
2. On call
3. In person

   By advertisement

This is the easiest stage, when in case of refusal we spend a minimum of effort.

1. Everything in the ad text that attracts the eye and does not fit into the scope of a regular request.
   

   A special approach is required / A strict teacher is needed.

   Thoughts immediately arise that something is wrong with the student - is he jumping around in class like a goat, not listening to anything except the sounds coming from his iPhone? I saw one like this, I don’t want to waste my and other people’s time anymore.

   What is needed is not a school teacher.

   The question arises: What’s bad about school? In my life I have met a lot of teachers who do not fit into the mold of an elderly woman with a bun on her head who teaches everyone using the grammar-translation method.

   Internship/study abroad/residence in Oxford is required.

   It is especially strange when such demands are placed on a preschooler’s tutor. Does a parent or student want a “cool tutor” to show off? Maximum benefit for minimum money? I don’t pay attention to such and similar requests; most likely, this is an extra headache.

2. If the order states that Lesson duration is short: a month or six months is also a reason for me not to agree to an order. Then this period may turn out to be even shorter, and the money for the order will be given, and the students who were refused because there was no free time left have already gone to other tutors.
3. Preparing for the exam short term . Especially if it’s the Unified State Exam, and especially if they want to pass with a good score, but at school they got a grade of 4 or worse. There will be many complaints and expectations from parents; not everyone can explain the relationship between the complexity of the exam format and real possibilities child.

On call

These problems usually arise when you do not choose the student, but the student chooses you. When we get to the point of discussing “what you want from classes” over the phone, you can hear the following phrases that should be a warning:

In person

This is where it’s hardest for me to part with a student, because we’ve already spent time on each other and got to know each other personally. It is always inconvenient to refuse me in such cases, but I try to muster my will into a fist. I’ll have to work with him later.

1. Rudeness. Most often among schoolchildren or the only adored heir. Just ill-mannered children whose parents do not teach the difference between an adult and a peer. Such students may refuse to do some task during class because they are not interested, go out to eat in the middle of the lesson because they are hungry, or write to a friend on WhatsApp. I try to politely explain to parents that I am used to a different attitude, and I advise them to write in their repeated application: “the child needs a special approach.” I directly inform the site administrator that I don’t know how to work with difficult children, and I won’t take the order.
2. Disinterest. Also most often among schoolchildren who take English classes because their mother forced them (or his whole class takes extra classes, we won’t be worse than others). If a person doesn’t want to (and especially a teenager who likes to do everything contrary), even a lot of beads are unlikely to change anything.
3. Excessive workload student. There are also schoolchildren who take extra classes in dance-volleyball-music-drawing-Chinese, because their parents are raising them to be young stars. Such children usually come to class with the desire to sleep and relax, and not to study.
4. Personal dislike. It seems like an adequate-looking character, he does everything in class, but you don’t like him, and that’s all. It’s inconvenient to say “you’re not like that” directly, so I explain the impossibility of dealing with sudden personal circumstances.

There are, perhaps, some problems that become visible only after a while, but I have not yet encountered any serious ones. If I am not satisfied with something, I talk to the student himself, or to his parents.

These are the criteria I try to be guided by when choosing clients. But I don't always succeed. When I was just looking for students, I took everyone who asked, fearing that I wouldn’t find anyone later. Now I’m studying with two that I just can’t part with - I’ve been teaching them for a long time, my parents are counting on me, my conscience is tormenting me, although, in a good way, I should. But now I take new ones according to the rule “Measure seven times - cut once!”

Which students should you avoid?

“I’m stopping working with children”: shocking revelations from a professional tutor

Nowadays, tutoring is flourishing - no one sees anything wrong with inviting a person to “teach in” with a child school curriculum, so such specialists are in great demand. And for some reason it occurs to no one that the fashion for tutors is the most striking evidence of the gaping failures in the Russian school education system.

A post in which a professional tutor English language Maria Covina-Gorelik talks about the peculiarities of her work, relationships with children and parents, as well as her attitude towards school studies.

This post is dedicated to the work of a children's tutor from the perspective from which I see it. It is addressed primarily to parents of schoolchildren (current and potential).

In general, children are terrible clients. If only because they, as a rule, do not study in the summer. From the reverse side, it looks disgusting: in May, a wave of last-minute calls brings tutors who are dead tired from the year, but in need of work, to the websites of tutoring services.

In September, my phone number can receive up to three requests a day; in May, the site kindly reports that 112 colleagues responded to an interesting order before me. For a tutor, this means that all year he needs to carefully save some money for the summer, but with the onset of summer it turns out that just now (and only now) he has time to go to Ikea, get a massage, get his teeth fixed and do a lot more absolutely urgent matters. Savings are dwindling by July. August is going by gloomily.

This alone is enough to make requests to take another child on board not seem so harmless. If you occupy your entire schedule with “children,” the summer can turn out to be more than dull.

But this is so, an economic prelude. Secrets of the profession. I'm sure many would not like to delve into this at all, but I see some benefit in revelations. I want people who ask me or another teacher to “work a little” with their Katyas, Vasyas and Petyas, to “slightly improve the program” to understand well what they are asking for and respect other people’s work, time, schedule, refusals and motives of these refusals.

You must understand that a tutor never works in a vacuum. He works closely with parents and school, and the child in all this rigmarole takes last place, but should take first place. In principle, this says it all, but I know that it is not clear. So I'll continue.

Parents hire me as a qualified teacher and expect high professional qualities. Sound guesses about mine professional qualities look something like this: I know the language well, I can talk about it in an interesting way, I know the methods, I know how to read manuals, and I also know how to find an approach, interest them, and generally do all this incomprehensible magic that will force their child to finally do his homework or just anything -understand.

Parents expect me to recognize what the problem is with their child specifically and to help resolve the problem.

These are logical expectations and are consistent with the qualifications available. However, this is not important, it is important due to what, what fuel, thanks to which I can do all this. And I know how to do this through subtle listening, seeing and understanding, which, alas, cannot be limited.

And this means, dear parents, that I will see, hear and understand a lot not only about the connection “child - English”, but also about other related connections, for example, “child - parents”, “child - school”, “child - environment", "the child - himself", "the child - the level of his intellectual, emotional and mental development“,” “a child is his hormonal background” and so on. This means that I will see far more than just what you want me to see.

If a child has red flags that are outside my area of ​​expertise, I will see it. If a child is developmentally delayed, I will see it. If a child is physically or emotionally exhausted, I will see it. And if you mistreat your child, I will see it.

I tell you three real cases. I didn’t stay in any of these houses: in the first two cases I left on my own, in the last one they parted with me with the wording “You are too good for us” (this is not a joke, ladies and gentlemen).

1. A boy, 11 years old, was invited to improve his Russian and English. Typically, he asked for a tutor himself because he felt that he was falling behind and couldn’t cope. A wonderful family, three boys, they recently got a cat. The relationship is warm, the boys have a separate room, good conditions. The child studies in an elite school, and he studies there every day from 9 am to 6 pm: in the morning - compulsory lessons, in the afternoon - endless drama classes, modeling, additional physical education and other poetry to the accordion. I came at 7, and we studied until 9.

After two months of training once a week, I took my mother aside and said that, alas, we were not progressing, and that, in my opinion, the load should not be increased, but decreased. That is, at least cancel me to hell. We parted amicably.

The situation is far from the most critical, but there is a complete misunderstanding of physical capabilities, norms and limitations. Mom is a psychologist by training, but for some reason she managed to overlook the dark circles under her beloved son’s eyes.

It is difficult for an 11-year-old person to realize that there are compelling physiological reasons for his lack of understanding. It can’t even enter his head that HE, YOUR MOTHER, IS FUCKING UP LIKE SIDOR’S GOAT TO GO TO SCHOOL FULL DAY EVERY DAY!!! And that it shouldn't be this way.

The final touch: on spring break the child was sent to London. Learn the language. Of course, what else to do during the holidays?! Rest? Lounging around the house, playing with your brothers and cat? Go to museums? To children's shows? Why, if you can go with strangers to an unfamiliar country, where you can move around in an organized manner while the teachers shout and finish learning what you haven’t learned in a semester. We give the child the most Best Education, which will only fit into it. Including any tutor who asks.

And he will ask. More than once again.

2. Hired to tutor my brother (11–12) and sister (16). In total, the family has four children, a large apartment, signs of wealth and well-being. Fashionably dressed kids play around in a pile of toys. Both students speak well, although the boy visibly fidgets and constantly corrects himself, and the girl is all nervous and stutters a little. In the second lesson, the boy suddenly cannot say literally anything, all attempts are confused, he rocks on his chair and repeats “I don’t know” and “I can’t do it” like a parrot, the state is close to hysterical.

My gentle approaches from different ends bring no results. I'm calling my mom. The child, realizing that he will now be discussed, runs out of the room in tears and shouting: “I tried, but I didn’t succeed!”

I gently try to explain to the mother what is happening to her son, without using dangerous words from the field of psychology and emphasizing that the situation is beyond my competence as a teacher. That the child needs help (URGENT, FUCKING!!! QUALIFIED!!! PSYCHOLOGICAL!!! HELP!!!)

She perceives this in her own way, and literally tells me the following: “I, of course, understand that you are paid to teach the language, and not to tame such subs.” Then she puts pressure on me and manipulates everyone possible ways, but since I saw some episodes of her and her father’s treatment of children, I hold firm, knowing that I will not work in this family.

The mother leaves the room with the text: “Well, this is what you’ve brought to this. They are abandoning you!”

I leave the apartment under a heart-rending HOWL. And I wouldn’t be surprised if the belt came into play that evening.

If we had at least some social services, I would have reported this family. But they don’t work, just like the school and many other government and social institutions. But in Moscow there are more than 10 thousand tutors in my subject alone. How many times do we go to someone's house and see something like this? And do we see it?

3. They persuaded me to work out with a girl (they wanted me, negotiated with my mother for a long time, and in the end I decided to take her).

A tiny Khrushchev building, and inside there is a picture of frozen time: a carpet on the wall, an icon on the carpet, a million porcelain figurines, napkins, plastic roses in a vase. An environment that makes you want to fly up, stripping naked and washing yourself in the rain. At home, a grandmother who, over the course of several meetings, describes her life in approximately the following terms: “what a time it is,” “I raised three people,” “35 years at school,” etc.

During class, the doors don't close, grandma walks back and forth. The girl is 12 and barely speaks. In no language. She especially doesn’t say anything when Grandma’s route takes us past our table.

For an hour and a half, with a wet back, I put on a puppet show for the girl, funny pictures, best friend children and other polyphonic studies, because the girl is silent. From time to time I cling to a semblance of a twinkle in my eyes. I squeeze out a few not hopeless words from her.

After a couple of lessons, we begin the innocent topic of “Family,” and from the confused explanations, I drag out the following into the light of day: the girl has a mother, stepfather and brother, with whom she does not live. She can’t make up her mind about her brother, whether he exists or he doesn’t, and I, completely confused, am forced to ask again several times in every way. different languages. Because I don’t immediately understand how this is possible.

And then I understand. I understand that the girl has it from her mother good computer and a plan to go to London together in March (and on this score the grandmother, who has been “35 years at school”, gives me a valuable pedagogical council: at each lesson, memorize several useful expressions just in time for the trip).

But the mother herself is not there. Mom lives with her beloved man and brand new son. And the girl lives among icons and napkins with her grandmother, whose brain has gone askew and is stuck in the post-war period.

And at home I’ve been trying to somehow come to terms with the situation for two weeks, although I want to scream for a long time. Call your mom and scream. Put grandma in the hallway and scream. But I pull myself together, because I think: maybe the Lord brought me there on purpose, so that somehow? To show the girl that there are other human species? What difference does it make, well, yes, through the English language, since it happened like that. Will I be able to? I don't have an answer to this question.

So far, the girl is afraid of absolutely any of my proposals, which is not surprising for a person who is afraid of the sound of her own voice. And here is my whole self, I have red lipstick, I am smiling. And I'm not afraid of anything. But after a couple of weeks, my grandmother herself calls me and says that I have an excellent technique and they are completely satisfied with everything, but the girl is too busy, so they decided to hold off on the language. And I sigh with shameful relief, heavy as lead.

Your girl has no problems with the English language.

And she doesn't have a mother.

What the hell kind of English is there?! What is London like?

The horror is that absolutely all these people are sure that they love their children very much. They do the best for them. And everything in their family is in order, and if not in order, then still not everything is completely bad, and in general it’s none of my business. I was invited to teach English.

ROOM FOR PAUSE AND READER REFLECTION

A short note: I have wonderful children as my students. We have been working with them for a long time and productively. They have normal parents - not ideal, no, there are also nuances, but normal. However, it's not just the parents, so let's move on.

About how the school has degraded over the years last decades, it’s somehow awkward to say. Firstly, I didn’t work there and would never go there, and to criticize something that I didn’t succeed in and didn’t even try is below the belt. Secondly, so much has already been said that it’s sickening.

But this does not change the essence. School doesn't teach anything. Suffice it to say that I have three students from one specialized English school, where they have 7-8 hours of English a week. And they need a tutor. Just think about these numbers, it’s complete madness!

The terrible truth is that I cannot completely reinstall them on normal human rails, because over the course of ten years the school has etched ruts inside them, from which nothing can then be pulled out of them. And no matter how much my parents hope that I will teach them to talk, I will not teach them. This can be done if you tear them out of the school perception of reality, and you can try to do this in the summer, that is, during the period when there is no school.

But in the summer, as I already wrote, they don’t do it. Summer is sacred. Let's kill ourselves to the point of intestinal volvulus within a year, and let's kill ourselves in geometric progression so that by the end of the 11th grade, at the Unified State Examination, we will crawl in a really dangerous state under the arms of tutors in all subjects taken, but we will not touch the summer. Just when it would be possible to make a qualitative breakthrough, disguising it as a pleasant pastime, with films, songs, and other human activities, etc., we will not allow even 3 hours a week to be allocated to lightly recharge the rested and fresh brain.

In several issued after verification tests I found incomprehensible places and asked: “Didn’t you come to clarify what was meant here?” - to which the child answered me: “I was convinced that it was better not to ask questions.” Some were outright mistakes on the part of teachers (English schools, yes). But in general, if anyone doesn’t know, verified tests and other work are now usually not returned. Of course, there is no need to know what exactly your mistake was; your job is to know the score and try to improve it in your next attempts. How? As you wish.

They still learn topics and retell them in class. For example, about the Indians. As I remember now, one of the heroes of the text was called POPOKATEPETL. I remember another topic about Moscow City. Like how many meters is the Federation Tower? After this, they are surprised that the children speak poorly. WHAT SHOULD WE SAY HERE IF THIS IS SOME kind of CIPHER THAT IS COMPLETELY UNUSED FOR NORMAL HUMAN PURPOSES?!!! And what can I do with my three hours versus the school’s eight? But of course I try. And, I must say, I am succeeding, although with great difficulty.

However, parents' expectations, as a rule, are dashed against the rocks in this place. Therefore, I will say directly and clearly: dear friends, if you want your child to succeed in a subject at school, then the safest way to achieve this would be to act in parallel with the school according to its guidelines, which I personally will never do, because I cannot. Organically.

If you want your child to speak at least someday (at school this most likely will not happen, more powerful shocks are needed here than three hours a week with a tutor), then you can hand him over to me, I will turn his brains into the right one side, and when the school fever loosens its grip, he will have the opportunity to plant further training language into more or less sensible yeast.

This is all I can do, because all other “good” results are achieved either through drill and violence, or with initially different initial data.

It is impossible to make sure that he simultaneously does well in an average school with its crazy requirements and ill-conceived formats, and speaks English fluently and well on truly relevant, life-related topics. This equation will NEVER converge.

They do not know how to think here and now.

They do not know how to use sources and reference books.

They do not know how to use the known to find out the unknown.

They do not know how to combine information, draw conclusions, compare, and generalize.

They don’t even know that “I don’t know” can be followed by any actions other than “sit down, two.”

Minimal difficulty leads them to a completely inoperative state (the nuances are rich and correlate with their personal characteristics: some are furious, some are desperately stupid, some feel the collapse of all hopes every time, some throw all their strength into maintaining the illusion of their own consistency ). At this moment, they are busy with anything other than English, and I spend time, attention, and energy to breathe normal life into them.

By the way, it is inhaled ONLY after such moments, experienced differently than through tugging, appeals to conscience and other common teaching techniques.

I tune it all, like a huge harp, and then they go to school, where they tune this harp for me.

11th grade is worthy of special mention. Now I have two adored dolls in my hands, they will be released soon. Say what they are intellectual abilities Pali is an understatement, but I have known them for 3 years.

The girls look like seaweed in raspberry syrup and don’t think a damn thing. They yawn from monstrous fatigue, besides they are in love and losing weight. All tables are covered with pieces of paper with mathematical formulas, historical facts, quotes from Pasternak and hearts with a more frivolous content. They get either a migraine or a stomach infection. I feel incredibly, incredibly sorry for them.

At school all year they do absolutely nothing except run through the Unified State Examination form, although it’s a no-brainer that the test format can only be a test format, but not a training one. I repeat like a mantra: “Sleep and cartoons,” but they don’t listen. They are completely unable to study effectively, but they cannot do anything other than study until they are completely glazed over.

Half-deliriously, they rush to repeat three types of conditional sentences (and repeat, by the way, not without success, because this is an understandable pattern that they can cling to). But they are completely powerless to describe the furnishings of their room or a picture from the fairy tale “Cinderella,” as well as to give birth to another thought of their own.

Parents enthusiastically stir up everyone's nerves. They ask me: “Do you think she will pass?” “It will,” I answer confidently, realizing that at least someone needs to stand exactly in this field of crazy feather grass. It would be better for the children if it were their parents, but who knows. Maybe if they knew how to do this, there would be no need for me at all.

A feeling of total, widespread disconnection and ill health. Parents do not fulfill their functions. The school is not fulfilling its functions. The tutor comes to this and tries to do something. In essence, he is defeated - because with my capabilities and knowledge, with support and fair winds, I could achieve results with these children that I can only dream of now.

Therefore, for the near future I will stop working with children. I'm tired to death of fighting windmills, seeing things that hurt, getting blows for doing what other people don't do. I love children. I know how to work with them. But with my parents and school, no, and I probably won’t study. I'd rather wait until these kids grow up and understand what's what. Actually, these are the people I work with at the moment with great pleasure, finding in almost every adult a child who was once tortured for a long time and in a difficult way.

But I no longer have the strength to look at this in real time.

And a couple of recent episodes from our NON-school life.

1. My daughter, returning from a walk with a new boy she knew, spoke about their conversation on topics outside of school: “When he found out that I was studying at home, he first said that it was cool, and then - that they are not prepared for the Unified State Exam at all, they themselves think what to do". Question: who needs such a school?

2. Today we wrote a “ministerial” test in Russian. The text of the assignment was compiled by “very special people”)) There are gross errors in Russian in the Russian assignment. In some places the wording is so confusing that it is not possible to complete the task with full confidence that you understand what “the author wanted to say.”

I myself have been working as a tutor since 2009. I earn money on the side, not work. I believe that when tutoring becomes a business, the search for students turns into a pursuit of them, and the teacher-entrepreneur simply gains more clients - no matter whether they actually need additional lessons or not.

I took the Unified State Exam in Russian language, literature, English, physics and mathematics. And I prepared for all these subjects myself (the school conducted additional - free - classes in physics and English). I passed all these subjects with 80+. This is why I am critical of tutors and tutoring.

In my opinion, tutoring has one huge disadvantage: tutoring atrophies the student’s ability to self-organize. When every week a person comes to the child and thinks through the program, homework, and exercises in class for him, then the student simply will not need to think about managing his time. Other people do it for him.
But what happens next? The student passes the Unified State Exam, enters a university, and there no one will “shepherd” him. Such a student does not know how to methodically prepare for exams, read the necessary literature on time, or do assignments. And it turns out that he approaches the first session with a wad of debts. In this way, the tutor does a disservice to his student.

If a child does not have serious difficulties in a subject, he is able to independently prepare for exams. A person must learn to set goals and describe a strategy for achieving these goals. Otherwise, he simply will not survive in life after school. The child must feel that he is responsible for his academic performance, for the quality of knowledge acquisition. Tutors simply interrupt this sense of responsibility in the student. This is why I am annoyed by families where it is believed that once a tutor has been hired, he is now expected to pay for the student’s results; that the very fact of having a tutor is the key to success.

When I see that a student is able to study well without me, I have a conversation with the parents and explain that tutoring is unnecessary for them. But in most cases they treat my words with distrust. They feel calmer with a tutor.
I especially don’t like cases when parents hire a tutor for the purpose of “helping with homework, mastering the program.” Why, in fact, should a controlling person constantly hover over a child? Well, he doesn’t want to study literature, well, he can’t get an A in Russian - and God bless him! I categorically do not understand parents who invite tutors to schoolchildren in grades 1-8. Why is there any training at all at the intermediate level? Let the child study as he studies: not everyone has to be an excellent student!

On the other hand, there are times when additional classes are truly necessary. I had a girl with dyslexia, second grade... I suffered and suffered, but in the end I convinced my parents that they did not need a Russian tutor, but a qualified speech therapist. They obeyed, thank God! Then there was another boy with attention deficit disorder. I also took it to a specialist with a psychological background. Because, in fact, he had no problems in the Russian language and literature. There were guys studying at home and on external studies: yes, they need supervision.
A tutor will not hurt during preparation for the Olympiads, for additional entrance examinations. But no more. After all, here too - if a student wants to deepen his knowledge of a subject - he is able to independently get to additional information. I’m not bragging, of course, but by the end of 9th grade I had already mastered the entire school mathematics curriculum and reached analytical geometry and linear algebra. By myself, by myself. It was just very interesting. But there was no tutor who could prepare me for the Olympiads. Therefore, there were no outstanding results.
So - my conclusion - a tutor is only good for solving specific problems, but otherwise let the child learn to cope with difficulties on his own, because in adult life no one will babysit him.

RN, age: 15/21/11/2017

Responses:

Don't worry so much! Most likely the problem is with the tutor who is not working on reinforcing the material with you. Our brain is designed in such a way that we need to repeat the same thing over and over again, including by solving practical problems. So, refuse his services, start reading the textbook yourself, watch free lectures, make cards with formulas and keep them before your eyes, solve a lot of problems. Even if you have no aptitude for this subject, patience and work will grind everything down and you will be able to get not only 4, but even 5. The most important thing is not to lose sight of any topics, eliminate gaps in knowledge (for example, how exactly do you know the multiplication table ? Can you reproduce it extremely quickly? This is very important). Walk calmly and methodically towards your goal, you will succeed. And your parents are just trying to motivate you. So don't worry

Marina, age: 23 / 21.11.2017

Hello! First of all, I want to tell you - you are a very, very diligent person! It's a huge plus that you're in this at a young age you try to improve your studies, don’t give up on it. It is also very commendable that you want your parents to be proud of you and do not want to upset them. You are a great son!
You just need to remember that you don’t have to torture yourself like that! The more you worry, the harder it will be to study. Please try to calm down, I understand it’s not easy, but I’m sure you can handle it! After all, stress does not have a positive effect on the body or the brain. Take care of your precious health, do not let stress destroy you. Remember, you can always improve your knowledge, it’s never too late to learn, but it’s harder to improve your health.
It will be a huge advantage if you start studying this subject more on your own, deepening your knowledge.
You have great potential, you are diligent and purposeful - I am sure that you can do anything! The main thing is to always be calm. I wish you great luck, I believe in you!;)

Rimma, age: 19/21/11/2017

Ivan, age: 37 / 11/21/2017

Good afternoon I can say from my own experience: fear and a feeling of worthlessness have a very strong effect on the result. It's dangerous to be in this state all the time. Who hasn't had any failures? Open any biography of anyone famous person. There are so many cases when everything went to victory, but the result was sad - due to circumstances beyond his control. But people did not lose heart and moved on. You know, a friend of mine, a successful person in banking, once calculated that after university he sent out more than 100 resumes to get the job he needed! So don't worry! You won't achieve anything with this. Don't make yourself sick! If you are a believer, read prayers, this will help you stay calm. If not, reassure yourself, say that everything will be fine. You don't need 5, but just 4! Good luck!

Svetlana, age: 38 / 11/22/2017

Hello. Analyze whether the material became easier for you after additional classes, whether the topics became clearer, maybe you should change your tutor, a lot depends on him.

Irina, age: 29/11/22/2017

Hello! I really sympathize with you. Just don't despair. If you die, you will definitely disappoint your parents. They love you regardless of your grades. Naturally, they will scold you for getting C grades, this is because they are worried about you, about your future. You can still fix everything, there is still a lot of time before the exam) You go to a tutor, and for all the additional ones, and study at home, then you will definitely be able to improve your result) The main thing is that you have the desire for this) Remember that grades are not the most important thing in life. And exams are not as scary as they might seem. Don’t lose hope for the best) If this problem bothers you so much, then you can talk to a psychologist online. And you can also ask the Lord for help) God created you as a wonderful person, He loves you very much and will never leave you) Ask Him for help more often and it will become easier for you) I wish you finding the meaning of life, more patience and strength, good relationships in the family, success in studies, good health, always a good mood, happiness, more love, joy and peace in life and all the best! Hold on, God will help you! Guardian Angel to you!

Anastasia, age: 19 / 22.11.2017

If a student comes to your home for classes, then this is very convenient for you. Indeed, in this case

you don’t waste time and energy on the road,

you do not need to carry with you the textbooks, notebooks, manuals and other items necessary for class (umbrella, mobile phone, water, snack, etc.), since you have everything at hand at home,

you don’t care about being on time, not being late for class,

after all, you are not spending money on travel, and this amount can be from 10% to 25% of your fee. For example, if in my city of Ivanovo you will have to transfer to a student, then you will spend 12 * 4 = 48 rubles on travel, which is 24% of the lesson cost of 200 rubles.

However, every barrel of honey has its own fly in the ointment. In this situation, this means that you should take care to ensure favorable conditions for classes. In order for the student and you to feel comfortable, you need to pay attention to the following points.

Place of classes. It is better if it is a separate room. It should be clean and ventilated. No unmade beds, dirty dishes, or ashtrays full of cigarette butts. Quiet - there should be no radio or TV working.

If it is not possible to allocate a separate room for studying, then you can simply use a relatively isolated place with a desk. There should be no unnecessary items on it, only those necessary for this lesson materials, lamp, computer.

By the way, it’s not very good if, during your classes, water is pouring somewhere in the house, cutlets are crackling in a frying pan, lids are knocking on pots, and there is a smell of fried fish, burnt porridge or soup. We must try to avoid such distracting situations.

Your family, that is, relatives or other people with whom you live. You must agree with them on the place and time of your classes. If there are small children in the house, then someone should take care of them so that they do not make noise and do not enter your room.

Your kind. It’s not good if you meet a student in a dressing gown, worn-out slippers, with an unkempt head and unbrushed teeth. An office business suit and high heels are not required. You just have to, as they wrote before in novels, be “tidy.” Neat clothes, neat clean shoes, neatness in everything - this is necessary and sufficient.

Time of arrival or arrival of the student. Perhaps the student will appear at your place earlier than the appointed time, so you must be prepared for his arrival in advance (20-30 minutes before). If he arrives early, it is quite acceptable to ask him to wait, especially if you are still studying with the previous student. Invite the newcomer to sit somewhere and repeat the theory assigned for homework.

If a student is late, then five minutes after the appointed time you call him on his mobile phone. If he doesn’t answer, call him again after another 5-10 minutes. If he doesn’t answer again, then call your parents and ask about the situation - what’s going on?

Shoes. It is still customary in many families to invite guests to take off their street shoes in the hallway. Here you are the master of the situation. Decide for yourself what to do. The following options are possible:

The student takes off his shoes. Then you offer him slippers or house shoes, which, of course, must be clean and at least look new and unworn. But to be honest, it's not very hygienic.

If the student comes with his or her second shoe, that's better. However, this is not very convenient for him, since he has to remember about these second shoes, carry them, and generally reminds him of school.

Using shoe covers. Comfortable. Disadvantage: in winter, wearing outdoor shoes in an apartment makes your feet hot. Associated with a medical institution.

The student brings the second shoe, leaves it somewhere on your shelf, for example, in a bag, and puts it on when coming to your lesson. This option seems to me the most acceptable.

Food- Shall I treat you? You can have something light - tea, a sandwich, candy. But not necessarily. Clean water during the mini-break and at the end of the lesson is quite sufficient and even desirable. Offer it to the student and drink it yourself.

By the way, about water. It will be great if there is water somewhere near the table where you are studying - either in a carafe or in a plastic bottle. It is better to use disposable glasses, because then a person will not doubt that the glass is clean. And it’s easier for you too.

Pets. If you have them, then you should find out whether the student is afraid, for example, of dogs or cats, or if he is allergic to pet hair. Personally, I love cats and enjoy petting and holding them in any home. But a student may be uncomfortable with cat hair sticking to his clothes, or scared when a cat suddenly jumps into his lap.

Meet and see off. This must be done the first time, then depending on the situation. You should especially pay attention to this point if

the child is not very big,

it’s dark outside (and in winter it gets dark here at 5 p.m.),

you live in the private sector.

The student must be brought to the stop, put on the transport and informed by phone to the parents that the child is going home. Then parents will be calm about the safety of their child.

In any case, how the child will get to you and return home must be agreed upon with the parents in advance. The best option is when the parent brings or brings the child to you and picks him up from you after the lesson. Unfortunately, this is not always possible to realize.

These are the main points that you need to think about and take into account in advance if a student comes to study at your home.