Hello...I think that many girls will judge me after reading this story...But I’m very tired. I want to speak out, and not to anyone, so I write on the Internet, here. And I ask for advice on what to do. But there’s no one Therefore, I hope that you will help. The story will not be short, but I hope that you will read everything carefully and understand and help.

My name is Agata. I am an ordinary girl, 17 years old. I was born into an ordinary family, my mother and father divorced when I was not even a year old. Since then, I have never seen my father. But honestly, I didn’t feel like I was disadvantaged in some way...When I was 4 years old, my mother met a man. Intelligent, quite handsome, smart, successful. Even as a child, I understood that my mother was happy with him. And they got married. They just dated for a year, and then got married .Mom immediately agreed to go to his homeland, and also to convert to Islam. Moreover, my mother took Religion so seriously... She delved into this topic very deeply. Considering that my mother had not previously been an adherent of any religion, this became all for her incredibly interesting. She began to live like a real Muslim woman... I was still a child, I didn’t really understand anything. I honestly didn’t care. My grandmother, my mother’s mother, was not happy with her daughter’s decision. She was also not I liked the fact that I had to live the same way according to the rules of the Koran, she had long dreamed of baptizing me... My grandmother wanted to take me to her place in St. Petersburg.

Mom and Elmir (mother’s husband), as well as many other relatives of Elmir, consulted, thought, decided that I would go to St. Petersburg, come on vacation. And then, when I grow up and can decide for myself where I want to live, I will come or stay in Petersburg.

So I went to live with my grandmother. Maybe because I never had a very close relationship with my mother, as well as with Elmir, I didn’t really want to see my mother, I didn’t miss it. We lived well with my grandmother. Only after a long time I I found out that my mother and grandmother had a very strong fight (that’s why I didn’t go to my mother, we only spoke on the phone).

Mom and Elmir gave birth to a child, they didn’t think much about me. Occasionally my mother called and asked how I was, if I had everything. And I grew up with my grandmother, everything was enough.

When I turned 16 years old, my grandmother died. Everything happened so unexpectedly... There were no illnesses... My grandmother was hit by a car... And that’s all. Mom and Elmir flew to St. Petersburg on the same day, everyone was depressed. The question arose, where and with whom should I live. Honestly, my mother didn’t want me to live with her.

“I don’t know how to communicate with you, daughter. You’ve grown up. I lost you as a child. So... how do you decide,” she told me then.

My grandmother’s sister really wanted to take me in with her. I didn’t mind, besides, my help would be very useful for an elderly woman. Elmir was very happy that I wouldn’t live with him, he honestly doesn’t really love me.

And I stayed to live in St. Petersburg, with my grandmother’s sister. We lived quietly, calmly, I helped her as best I could.

And now, I’m 17 years old. In the summer, my grandmother’s sister also died. She was already very old, and she was sick. I’m not 18, I decided that I would return to my mother. Besides, Elmir suddenly showed a desire for me to live with them. I spent the summer in the camp, and then moved to Elmir. I was very surprised by their joy... They never really wanted me to live with them, but here I’m just in 7th heaven. And everything would be fine... But I really don’t like the rules by which they force me, they force me to live by.

Honestly, I never knew that Elmir adopted me. They apparently did it quietly. But in all documents, the father is written as Elmir. And this means that I am obliged to obey him unquestioningly. I am a rather capricious girl... When I The first time I disobeyed him, he hit me. Mother didn’t say anything, she just thanked Elmira for raising me so ungrateful...

They force me to wear modest, closed clothes. I arrived in the summer, in August, it was warm. I arrived there in short shorts and a T-shirt... Seeing this, Elmir told me that I was a prostitute (sorry for being straightforward), forced me to hide my legs with a floor-length skirt , and also throw a scarf over my shoulders... In general, I have to wear very closed clothes. He made me throw away all the short skirts, open blouses... Am I an old woman to dress like that?! I’m offended. And it’s also offended that if the guys looked at me (when I was dressed in ordinary, revealing clothes), it means that I’m a prostitute...

Well, I’m not talking about too much respect for elders (whom I don’t even know), about the fact that I don’t have the right to disagree, to express my opinion... This is terrible...

And the last, most terrible thing... I met a guy who is not a Muslim, but lives in the same place as me... Very handsome, sweet. He also really liked me. I was able to open my soul to him. We started dating, secretly went to club...And he hints at sex to me. And I really want...But I'm afraid that Elmir and my mother will simply kill me...They call sex before marriage Fornication...What kind of nonsense?! If people love each other...Why not?

I'm tired of this life...But I can't do anything...I'm so tired...

“Nothing makes me happy, everything seems gray and dull. I already forgot when last time I was dreaming about something. It seems that I have turned into an old woman - decrepit, weak, always dissatisfied. Tired of everything. What to do?"

Everyone has similar thoughts. At a certain point, a person gets tired of his work, daily responsibilities, and those around him. Even from myself. Why is this happening? How to start living in a new way, and most importantly, where to get the strength for this?

What's happening to me?

The truth is that we all get tired. Sometimes a person is exhausted by a series of troubles and problems that have to be constantly solved. But most often this feeling occurs for no apparent reason. Every day the apathy grows and at a certain moment comes the understanding that something needs to be done. But what? Without understanding the reasons for this condition, any action will resemble fighting with windmills. Therefore, first of all, you need to sit down and understand yourself a little.

What can cause overwhelming fatigue?

What to do?

So, what to do if you are tired of problems and everything that happens? The problem needs to be approached comprehensively. It is equally important to get your physical and emotional state in order. You need to sleep well, eat right, and move more. At the same time, you should learn to distract yourself from joyless thoughts. You need to be able to be positive.

Author's story. “At one time it seemed to me that I was very tired of what was happening. I just wanted to lie there and do nothing. I don’t know how it would have ended if one day a puppy hadn’t come to the house. At first I just fed him, and then I took him in for good. As a result, my troubles increased. I had to walk Luchik (that’s what I named the puppy) every day, feed him, and clean him. It would seem that my troubles have increased. But with him I gained an interest in life. Ray met me from work and wagged his tail cheerfully, kissed my hands, swam with me and slept. We became very attached to each other. And later I met a guy who was also walking his pet, and after a couple of weeks we started dating.

And that's what I want to say. When you are very tired, you especially need love. You just need to let her into your heart. You don't have to have an animal. You can just help someone. Visit a lonely grandmother-neighbor. Feed homeless people or animals at the zoo. Give some things to orphanage. Love and kindness towards others is the best healer. If you learn to give it for free, your fatigue will go away as if by hand.”

Where to get strength?

When it seems like you have absolutely no energy, it’s time to start organizing your day. To feel physically good, it is useful to listen to the following tips:

1. Go to bed no later than 23:00. The fact is that the body rests best at night. The necessary hormones are produced that are responsible for youth, beauty, and good mood.
2. Sleep at least 8 hours. This is how much time your body needs for you to feel rested and full of energy.
3. Start your day with a little exercise. Just 10 minutes of simple exercises will give you a boost of energy for the whole day. By the way, at the end you can take a contrast shower, this will invigorate you even more.
4. Have a delicious breakfast. People who skip their morning meal feel tired throughout the day. Therefore, to feel full of energy, you need to eat well in the morning.
5. Introduce into your diet foods rich in magnesium and B vitamins (nuts, beans, spinach, seafood, meat, liver). They are the ones responsible for emotional balance. Another option is to take vitamins.
6. Give up bad habits. Try to limit your consumption of coffee and alcoholic beverages. Quit smoking. Such addictions greatly undermine the human psyche.

How to bring back the joy of life?

Positive emotions are very important. But how to get them? Don't wait for someone to come and pull you out of your sad thoughts. Get started on your own:

In conclusion, I would like to add that the thoughts “how tired I am” are just thoughts. They only become a problem if you get too hung up on them. So isn't it better to spend this time on something more pleasant and useful?

Irina, Rostov-on-Don

Sometimes there come moments in life when everything goes wrong. Things aren't going well at work and problems arise at home. Troubles are growing every day, like a snowball, gradually increasing in size. And then it becomes very difficult to cope with them. It is during this difficult period that many women begin to complain about their fate, repeating: “I’m tired of everything.” This situation necessarily requires specification, otherwise it will be impossible to find an optimal solution or suggest a way out of the crisis.

First of all, you should understand that any difficulty does not arise overnight. Problems arise over the years, and only because we do not want to solve the emerging complexity in a timely manner, but prefer to put it off until later. Agree, how tempting the idea of ​​pushing off unpleasant matters until tomorrow sounds sometimes, just so as not to bother your head with them today. Is this a familiar situation? The moment when a woman is tired of everything simultaneously signals the presence of a difficulty and that it was not noticed in time.

Form of expression

How does universal fatigue manifest itself? What are her distinctive features? First of all, this is the lack of desires and intentions to change anything in life, despite the obvious severity of the problem. This may seem absurd, but the brighter the difficulty, the less strength a person feels to overcome it. That’s when destructive thoughts like the following appear: “I’m tired of everything, I don’t want to live.” Of course, this is an extreme degree of dissatisfaction with oneself, but it also occurs if no attempts are made to correct or change the situation.

The person begins to feel very tired. Work seems like an unbearable burden, a burden that is placed on fragile shoulders and forced to be carried. I don’t want to go anywhere or see anyone. Weekends and evenings are spent at home watching TV. A person only has enough time to switch channels by inertia. Some individuals, being in this state, sincerely ask: “I’m tired of everything, what should I do?” To solve a problem, you need to learn to look in depth.

Finding the real reason

Everything in the world has its roots. The origins of your fatigue also need to be found; this is the only way to truly correct it. To stop repeating: “I’m tired of everything, I don’t want anything,” you need to admit to yourself your own weakness. Sometimes this is very difficult to do, given the lack of will and desire to act.

Find a reason to delve into your past. Consider different cases from life. Look for a compelling reason why your current situation could largely become so negative forms. Understand that if you keep repeating: “I’m tired of everything and everyone,” it means that the matter is serious and it’s time to take truly effective measures of influence. What can help you?

Change of scenery

You need to not just go for a walk, but perhaps go somewhere to gain new positive impressions. The best way To overcome prolonged depression and the inability to solve a specific situation is a change of environment. If you have nowhere to go or finances do not allow it, do not despair. Just try to change your usual rhythm of life, and you will definitely feel better.

When you have the opportunity to travel, don't hesitate. Feel free to go buy tickets and leave everything to do. Now it is much more important for you to save peace of mind and a feeling of satisfaction. You must not allow negative thoughts to control your state and drive you into depression. Constantly spinning in your head: “I’m tired of everything”? Allow yourself a well-deserved vacation at least once a year!

Rational nutrition

This may seem strange to some, but what we eat affects our perception of the world. Products not only provide the nutrients necessary for life, but are also very important for a person’s mood and well-being. Nutrition must be correct and balanced. Provide your body with a regular supply of vitamins and microelements and you will see how much your mood improves and you gain an interest in life and new events.

How to organize proper nutrition? Never eat on the run, swallowing whole pieces in a hurry. Always chew your food thoroughly and do not get distracted during your next lunch or dinner. It is much healthier to eat freshly prepared food than canned food. Make sure you have all the essential nutrients in your diet. Then you will stop constantly saying: “I’m tired of everything to do.”

Give vent to your emotions

Probably everyone has heard about how harmful it actually is to accumulate negative emotions. Over time, they can destroy a person from the inside, undermine a completely healthy psyche, and make a person withdrawn and irritable. This is how a person is designed that he constantly needs to share his feelings with others. Moreover, it is necessary that there are people nearby whom you can completely trust when talking about your innermost experiences.

The syndrome called “Tired of everything” necessarily requires the closest attention. You must not allow feelings of dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction with life to accumulate, otherwise at some point everything can escalate very seriously. If you feel that you need to speak out, then meet with friends and share your experiences with them. When there is no suitable company nearby, it is extremely important to find someone who can understand and support you in difficult moment. You can solve your problems with the help of a psychologist.

Timely rest

Some people fiercely drive themselves into certain limits, from which they themselves sometimes cannot escape for a long time. Even if you are very busy, at least sometimes you need to allow yourself to rest. If you are driving own business, it is clear that you have little free time, and therefore try to use and plan it as wisely as possible. If you feel that you are pretty tired and have accumulated irritability, take some time for yourself - arrange an unforgettable vacation. Then the thought “I'm tired of everything” will not bother you so often. Don't neglect physical exercise, they not only charge you with the necessary energy, but also improve your mood.

Help others

They say that if you feel bad, you need to find someone who is even worse. This is partly true. When you compare your own condition with what your neighbor may have, you immediately feel an incredible sense of relief. Strive to help others as much as possible at a time when you yourself need help. This is how you will support yourself. Those around you will certainly be grateful to you, and your mood will rise to a high level.

“I'm tired of everything” - this thought does not appear in one day. This condition can accumulate over years, exhibiting a wide range of unfavorable symptoms. The main thing is not to focus on how you feel, but to see the best that life has to offer.

Creation

This point will probably be of most interest to people with creative thinking. Creativity is a wonderful trait that needs to be developed. Everyone has their own talents, but not everyone develops them. The abilities bestowed by nature need to be known and promoted for their better implementation. When you have doubts about your own inferiority, it is extremely important to be able to do what gives you the most pleasure and allows you to express your individuality.

Everyone wants to feel the necessary strength in themselves in order to fully move forward and demonstrate their own abilities. In life I want to be wealthy and independent. In many ways, creative impulses and ideas contribute to this goal.

Say no to alcohol

Many people mistakenly believe that feelings of dissatisfaction with life can be cured with a glass of wine or a glass of cognac. There is no greater delusion in the world than trying to make excuses for your own shortcomings! Alcohol not only will not help you when you are experiencing extreme melancholy, it will also add many problems, such as bad relationships with loved ones, quarrels and scandals in the family, and deteriorating health. Ultimately, frequent use will lead to addiction. If you are overcome by the heavy thought “I’m tired of everything,” a photo of a person who abuses alcohol will help you give up this addiction in time. Those who drink frequently have deteriorating skin and various health problems. You don't want to grow old prematurely, do you? Draw conclusions. Alcohol has never helped anyone cope with life's difficulties.

Thus, the condition of chronic fatigue should be treated by developing a fresh, positive outlook on life. Don’t let your energy sour in unfavorable conditions, realize your own destiny, communicate with like-minded people. This is the only way to recharge positive emotions, which will be very useful in everyday life. Be calm and cheerful!